Why You Gotta Be So Rude?

Why You Gotta Be So Rude?

I never understood why people felt the need to share their negative thoughts. Why does it matter if you think that person’s face looks weird? Why do you need to say out loud that that person’s hard work looks like shit? It makes me so angry especially when victims of these negative words have no clue what is being said about them and haven’t done anything to harm anyone.

What sparked these thoughts was a recent hate comment I got on an article I wrote. As an online writer, hate comments aren’t something new to me and are usually something I can deal with. When I first began getting hate comments, they often hurt my feelings and I usually either tried to ignore them or responded back negatively. As I matured, I began responding back positively, often receiving apologies or comments back praising me for being so respectful.

The hate comment that gave me the idea for this post wasn’t that bad. After fifteen minutes of staring at my response to this guy’s message, I decided not to reply at all. I just thought: why do people have to be so negative and say such mean things?

Our parents and teachers taught us from a very young age to not say anything if we have nothing nice to say. Think happy thoughts, speak kind words, and spread positivity.

Jessica Lam

Jessica Lam

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  • Chloe Tzang

    Oh, I agree with you so much. Why do people feel they have to make hate-filled negative comments? I’ve been posting on a writing-based (US) website for the last couple of years and I find that anything that triggers strongly held views of SJW’s just sparks off so much hostility and hate. I think your blog post on dating white guys was just a classic example of what triggers comments like that. I’ve just stopped posting on the website I used to enjoy so much because of the negativity and hate but the problem is, that attitude is so prevalent with people that weren’t brought up like us, to be polite and considerate, or who have rejected that politeness. The veneer of civilization is thin at times. But I agree with you completely, it’s just not worth responding to, if you do, you get sucked down into that state of mind and I hate that. It just ruins my day. For myself, I usually just delete those comments rather than responding at all.

    • Totally agree with you Chloe – when you feed into negativity, you get sucked into it. It’s best to just stay clear and ignore/delete negative comments!