The Worst Parts of Me

The last week has been really tough for me. A lot of it is personal, but it all boils down to two things: 1. I don’t feel like myself anymore, and 2. the stress and pressure over the last few months have caught up to me. I don’t really want to go into the details, and this post might even be a little too negative for some people. I’ve set a few goals to try to improve things about my life and better myself as a person.

Read also: How to Deal with Your Negative Thoughts

1. I need to learn to relax.

There will be periods of your life where you’ll have unbelievable amounts of stress, but you need to relax and adjust to your situation.

2. I need stop talking about other people.

I know most people say bad things behind other people’s backs, and being around people who do this isn’t an excuse to do this myself.

3. I need to start understanding that most people would rather avoid confrontation.

People would rather assume and complain about things behind your back than clarify and talk about things to your face. There’s nothing you can do about it and for that reason, there is no reason to be hurt by it.

4. I need to realize that no matter how good people portray themselves to be, they can turn out to be different than you expected them to.

At the same time, people who appear as not-so-great can turn out to be better than you expected.

5. I need to stop taking things so personally.

People will do bad things without realizing they’re doing bad things.

6. I need to stop assuming that people are like me.

Just because I’d do certain favours for people without hesitation, doesn’t mean people would do the same for me.

7. I need to stop assuming people can read my mind.

I never really explain myself, and this causes people to see me differently and in a negative light.

8. I need to become more independent and more opinionated.

I’m the type of person who gets influenced easily by others, so a lot of my own opinions aren’t really my own opinions.

9. I need to learn to control my emotions.

My lack of control is hurting the people I love.

10. I need to stop taking my feelings out on other people.

I’m the type of person who takes it out on everyone if one person wrongs me.

11. I need to stop surrounding myself around so much negativity.

I need to surround myself with more empowering and inspiring things.

12. I need to learn to become more secure and to love myself.

Being the opposite will only hurt you.

13. I need to learn to let go.

Let go of negative situations, let go of negative people, let go of negative things I’ve done.


Photo by Henry Z.

Always remember that you can have a fresh new start everyday, and it’s okay to make mistakes. If you make the effort to change and better yourself as a person, your negative habits will go away and you’ll be much happier. I hope you’re all having a lovely weekend, and I hope this list inspires you to set goals for yourself. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Feature image by Jerry D.

Jessica Lam

Jessica Lam

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  • Alice Lee

    Very deep and moving post Jess. Just wanted to let you know that I think you’re awesome!
    Hope you have a fabulous day xo

  • Bianca A. Nunez

    thanks for the reminders I know that it can be hard sometimes , I had something as small as a photo on Instagram make me feel horrible. But my mother knew what to say to cheer me up.

    • Hey Bianca, don’t let small things get you down! Stay positive 😊

  • Emma S. Cheng

    Hey Jessica, thanks for the reminders. There are things that I need to work on as well, and I hope that things get better for you.

    • Thanks so much Emma, hope you’re doing well!

  • Very deep thoughts and I always like reading honest posts because blogger are person’s with feelings also. I am sure you will get pass thru this period and get up with much more confidence. If it can help with anything one of the posts on my blog are about giving yourself once in a while a Me day. Check it out 🙂

  • Meileilan

    Thank you for those reminders. Whatevery is going on right now, i just want to tell you that you are beautiful and that the world is your oyster. Your pictures looks like i want o be where you are right now.. Lovely. -Meileilan

  • No joke, I totally feel like I wrote some of these. I literally just had this conversation last night with my husband, especially around the #3 about confrontation. I feel like I do love myself and I have my own opinion, the issue for me is when people don’t want to hear that opinion haha I promise, a lot of these will continue to grow and get better through your twenties. This is going to be such an awesome post for you too look back on in five years or ten years!

    Rachel | The Confused Millennial

    • Thank you so much Rachel, and I hope these things get better for you as well!

  • I can definitely relate to what you are saying! I feel deeply connected to #8, 11 and 12. I need to start embracing who I am and stop letting other people tell me who I need to be.