What It’s Like Dating a White Guy as an Asian Girl

What It’s Like Dating a White Guy as an Asian Girl

As a young Asian woman, I am no stranger to feeling fetishized by white males. During the year and a half I was on Tinder, white males of or around my age sent me messages such as “you’re my first Asian”, “Asa Akira”, “you look like an Asian goddess”, and best of all, “don’t Asian girls love white guys?”

I was born and raised in Toronto by my parents who were also raised in Toronto, so I was just as westernized as these guys were. When I received messages from other people of colour, they didn’t even mention anything about the fact that I was Asian. As my boyfriend (who is a white male himself) puts it, “Every white guy wants to have sex with an Asian girl, but not all of them want to date one.” We all know the popular slang term “yellow fever”, which describes a (usually) white male who fetishizes Asian women.

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On the other hand, there are also plenty of Asian women who fetishize white guys just as much. If we’re being honest here, I was one of these girls at one point. From the ages of 17 to 20, I was only interested in white guys. I felt like I was sort of “upgrading” in a way by moving away from my heritage. I felt proud that I was more white-washed than all my other Asian friends.

So, what changed?

I matured, for the most part. Adam and I have been dating for over a year, and I’ve learned that we are very much alike. Although we grew up with some very different traditions (my Chinese/Vietnamese heritage and his Canadian/Jewish heritage), we pretty much went through the same circumstances as Canadian children. I also went to Hong Kong last summer, and it really opened my eyes to my Chinese heritage.

Hong Kong Lanterns

There is a difference between having yellow fever and simply being attracted to the physical features of people from a certain culture. And you can very easily tell if a guy has the former.

I don’t ever feel racialized or stereotyped around Adam or his friends (I’ve read quite a few articles with other girls claiming this) – but that could just be because Toronto is such a multicultural place, and our generation is much more accepting than the generation before us. We once overheard a comment from a stranger saying “where do I get myself a hot Asian girl?” but he was obviously from a very different generation.

I’m proud to be Asian, and I’m working on learning Cantonese and Vietnamese (at least the basics). Dating Adam doesn’t “upgrade” me in any way – we’re both equals. I love him for who he is, not for the colour of his skin. And I definitely don’t see him as a white guy – I just see him as my guy.

P.S. if you liked this post, you might like this post on awkward phases I had as a Toronto kid.

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  • International Observer

    This Asian cunt is full of crap. The end.

  • Guest

    The new trend among Asian women in Canada and America is to date and mate with Black men to see for themselves if what people say about Black men is true. The best thing about Asian women is their willingness to not require use of condoms. They’re like Black girls that way. Most white girls demand condoms be used. The last six women I’ve slept with have all been Asian, and not one has required a condom. I think those girls just love the real feel of me inside them. There’s nothing wrong with Asian giving birth to Black babies, and then raising them up. We’re creating a new race called Blasians.

    • Jake Miller

      Yes, we need 2 Fite back against da chinks

      • Guest

        On the contrary, we need to “open them up” to new possibilities.

  • aj

    fair points. but the question is why more white women and asian american women don’t see asian american men as simply “guys” and not men of color… “love” is not blind, no matter how much we want to believe it is. that’s why korean men married to filipinas get so much flak. love is a gloss for class/national hierarchies embedded in “racial difference.” it’s cool if you “love” someone, but we can’t ignore that these pairings are the norm. read kumiko nemoto (sociologist) and she makes the point that black male/white female and white male/asian female pairings are not common despite racism but because of it (e.g., black men as figures of hypermasculine desirability and asian women as figures of hyperfeminized desirability). open your eyes.

    • Jake Miller

      Cuz azn guys r all nerds

  • 01987

    Its unfortunate Asian woman deal with this self hate issue. It causes them to date and live an existence where the sole purpose is to maintain the approval of others and to pursue things that will push them up a ladder society has told them to climb. Despite this idea of aiming to become something else(replica of a white woman ). Asian woman have so many beautiful features and qualities that it boggles my mind they’ve been brainwashed to the point of not loving their ethnicity. As a Torontonion it’s often I see an Asian female with a white male.
    Seldom do I see a white female with an Asian male. As a mixed man ( black father/white mother) I love all ethnicities and see nothing against interracial dating. But I 100% disapprove of dating for the purpose of gaining acceptance within society. Women who do this are void of the fear/love of God, the acceptance of themselves and respect for their own culture. Dying your hair, dressing as westernized as possible, utilizing makeup to create the appearance of larger eyes, plastic surgery to resemble white woman. I mean honestly I don’t get how
    Someone can love someone who hates them selves. IMO the only person who can help someone work through these deep rooted issues is Jesus. It’s important to realize you should be happy that God loves you and shouldn’t seek for the love of others through fitting in with whomever conquered/accumulated the most resources. You can’t serve God and money and many of the people who have ammased large fortunes; their ancestors paid for it in blood. I hope you (the author ) understands what image you present about your self with this post, you’re highlighting an issue that is deep rooted particularly with Asian woman, that IMO you’re still dealing with.

    • Jake Miller

      Fuck outta here with ur christian bs bitch

  • G.S.K. herzak

    Asian girls gotta stop worshipping pathetic racist white men. You feed their ‘great white colonizer’ mentality. I’m East Indian and got no prob getting girls, I prefer East Indian, Middle Eastern and Latina.
    Plus, so many white girls I know are banging Black buddies of mine. They hate less well endowed white men!
    Why Asians go after insecure and racist white boys who their own women reject is beyond me.

  • Davey

    If you read through this post and don’t see the hypocrisy and self-justification oozing out from it…lmao

  • Mike

    consider suicide plz dont have children

    • Chloe Tzang

      Bite me. You losers are hilarious.

      • Jake Miller

        They’re just salty chinks HAHA.

  • viskarenvisla

    The level of cosmic butthurt in these comments is hilarious. Stop being jealous of Adam’s success in dating, leave the 22 year old girl alone. Stop being a bunch of racists and go find girlfriends or boyfriends. I’m glad you’re happy Ms. Lam, I hope you have great success in your life.

    • Jake Miller

      What else do you expect from a male race of losers with small dicks? No one wants them LOL.

  • someone1o1

    This is called retro rationalization. Few years from now you’ll write an article about how white worshipping and self hating you were at 22. All these kissass white boys and racist Asian girls will still parade with you. When white guys are done having fun with you you’ll marry some poor Asian chap. Fuck.

    In the Western society Asian women are honorary whites. You have no reason to complain about racism.

    I’m not East Asian but I have never seen a group of women as vile and conniving as them. When a half white Elliot Rodgers murdered two Asian men you blamed Asian masculinity. You defend white supremacy. You emasculate Asian men in the cruelest way.

    Guess what there’s a fair chance that your kid will grow up to read about women like you. I hope they learn how you mocked their dicks.

    I guess Asian women are the perfect tool for white supermacy. They’ll trade their entire culture, heritage and family for some white cock and step up on the social ladder.

    I think Asian women should be grouped as white people. They have little to offer to the social justice movement.

    • Chloe Tzang

      Now THAT is what I call a racist outlook on life. It’s amazing the lowlife’s that come out of the woodwork. There really are a lot of losers around. On the plus side, with an attitude like that, your genes aren’t likely to make it far.

      • NewMan

        as usual white worship asian female like Chloe is projecting again.

        plz dont have kids. women like yourself will produce confused hapas with identity issues.

        • Guest

          Give Chloe a chance to go Black and redeem herself. If she goes Black she should have lots of Black babies.

      • someone1o1

        Married and have two kids LMAO.

      • someone1o1

        And at least I don’t hate my own dad like the white worshipping Asian sluts.

      • someone1o1

        *lowlives.

        Like your future offspring.

      • Guest

        You can expand the double helixes of heredity by going Black. It’s the latest positive trend among all women. If you’re single, give it a try. If you’re married, give it a try. You won’t want to go back.

    • Anon

      Girls retro-analyze when they try to justify their actions when they are in conflict with what’s right for them. It’s a defense mechanism they use so they convince themselves that they took the right decision. Then, they can look themselves in the mirror and not feel bad about it.

      In cases like this (racialized selective-dating), these girls retro-analyze to justify white colonialism in dating while bashing and negatively stereotyping non-white males.

      • someone1o1

        Asian girls more so.

    • JL

      ultimate bed wench uncle tom sellouts

      • someone1o1

        More like Aunt Kim or something

    • Jake Miller

      Salty salty salty! Your just mad that Asian guys will NEVER be as good as the master race!

  • ESL.vlogger

    American white english teacher in seoul here! Im currently beating off HOT korean chicks with a stick!! Ill be in Sinchon tonight gettin drunk high and laid!

  • PY-Kim

    Dear hate filled sad azian identity members your hatred for asian girls comes from your inability to get them to date or even notice you. That us your problem not theirs. Also if that guy with the white dad and crazy HK mom is any indication, you are all ugly mofos!!

    • Jake Miller

      They are! Asian guys don’t deserve any dates!

      • Guest

        Asian guys should date and marry Asian women that have been mated with, but not married by, Black men.

  • Thor

    Lol at all the butthurt loser angry asian males posting hate on here that couldnt get a date in a woman’s prison!

    • Jake Miller

      SO true! These ugly ass chinks couldn’t get a date if they were the last men on earth!

  • Chloe Tzang

    Wow, I can’t believe all the losers and haters this chatty little post of Jessica’s attracted. Some of those comments, oh wow, nobody in there right mind is gonna date you jerks whether you black, white, yellow, brown, green or pink. So sad, to bad, I’m with Jessica on this one and if it was my blog, I’d delete your sorry asses from the comments. She’s way more tolerant of you racist intolerance than I would be.

    • NewMan

      you mean loser like yourself bragging about dating white & thinking you’re special? stop projecting, loser LOL.

    • JL

      you are both BED WENCHES. learn what it means, sellouts

    • Jake Miller

      Don’t expect much from these mongoloids.

    • Guest

      Start sleeping with Black men, and enjoy life. It will loosen you up.

  • NewMan

    Why do Asian women who white-worship (like the author) such attention whores?

    • Chloe Tzang

      We don’t (and my partner’s a white guy but sorry, there’s no worship involved), and the author of this blog isn’t – she’s writing a really cool little blog on fashion and life in Toronto, which having visited a couple of times, is a really friendly and very multi-ethnic and cultural city. You’re just a jerk, buddy. If there’s any attention whores here, it’s losers like you.

      • NewMan

        yawn… typical white worshiping loser trying to justify her blatant self-hate and white worship LOL.

        “Look at ME! Asian girl dating teh white boiz! I’m so special and imma pretend that i don’t white worship! imma write an article about it”

      • JL

        pathetic white worshiping bed wench sellout

      • Guest

        You can’t be multi-cultural unless you sleep with Black men.

  • Adam A Khan

    I am a light skinned Pakistani guy who is Born and raised in Toronto. I am 6ft Tall and an ex Muslim atheist. I attract a lot of Asian women. What I find is some Asian women like Westernized guys, who are handsome. Its not neccessary white worship etc. However, my current GF is Korean. The women I love the most are Asian. Thank you.

  • Patata

    Nearly 70% of western born or raised Asian Females date non-Asians. Compare that to 15% of Black Females, 25% of Hispanics, 5% of Whites…

  • Daniel

    Esau

  • Jake Miller

    I don’t blame her for dating white guys. Have you seen how ugly Asian guys are? All nerds or anime weeaboos. She’s better off dating white guys, or else she would have to put up with a weeaboo boyfriend who sits inside and studies all day. Probably wouldn’t enjoy sex because of an Asian guy’s micropenis either.

    • Anon

      Don’t feed this pathetic troll. People, add to the discussion. This reply written by a non-Asian here.

      • Jake Miller

        Yes, I am a non-Asian. You’re just jealous that white men are so much better than Asians.

  • Anon

    “When I received messages from other people of colour, they didn’t
    even mention anything about the fact that I was Asian. As my boyfriend
    (who is a white male himself) ….”

    So, you’ve just proved the WF-selective-dating white-supremacists argument here. You did not end up with any of these “people of colour” as you call them.

    Mentioning that Toronto is multicultural and that our generation is more accepting than previous generations (except in dating?) is just telling lies to yourself, trying to come up with random generalizations that do not speak through your actions and of other AFs who have tunnel-vision when selecting a male partner. Non-whites need not apply.

    • Chloe Tzang

      “Neither do other AFs in Toronto (like 99.9%)”

      Delusional. I’ve been to Toronto. Ever been to Markham or Richmond Hill?

      • Anon

        You’ve been to Toronto? I LIVE here.

        • Chloe Tzang

          Good for you. I hung out with my friend in Markham and downtown and most asian girls I saw were with asian guys. Not all, maybe 80-90% or something. Probably its who you mix with and where you go.

          • Jake Miller

            They’re probably pity dates. Everyone knows that no girl wants asian guys HA!

  • Anon

    Living in Toronto here for 12 years. Latin American guy, natural tan, professional, fit and nice features. Some ladies at my work give me compliments, like saying “handsome” to me. However, every time I tried, outside work of course, to match with a Korean, Japanese, Chinese, or Vietnamese-heritage girl,I obtained zero results. Moreover, in these 12 years here I have NEVER but once spotted an Asian girl with a non-white male. What does that tell you, Jessica? Still trying to convince yourself with lies?

    • Chloe Tzang

      Blowing smoke out your ass buddy. Bite me. So why are you trying to hit on Korean, Japanese, Chinese, or Vietnamese-heritage girls? Sounds like you’ve got a bit of yellow fever yourself. Why not just hit on girls you find attractive instead of chasing a stereotype. And you know what, speaking for myself that asian male “I’m the boss” thing does as little for me as the Latin American machismo thing does. What does that tell you.

      • Anon

        When did I say I ONLY hit on East Asian girls? The observation I described was applicable whenever I hit on such girls. Speaking of stereotypes, I see you’ve been brainwashed by white-male dominated Hollywood. I’m far removed from that machismo concept but you’ve got that stereotype ingrained in your narrow view of non-white males (including your own!). I wonder how many of you think like that.

  • Rohan

    Still whitewashed

  • Nishi Hundan

    Jessica is “proud to be Asian.” Bwahahahaha! Bwahahahahahahahahahahahaaaa! You’re so full of shit.

    By the way, Adam looks like a faggot.

    • Chloe Tzang

      And you sound like a total loser. Probably date asian girls in your dreams.

  • Max Valentine

    wait a minute so she felt guilty about worshipping white dudes but she matured and learn to be proud of being asian and so now she still dates a white dude but shes even more asian for him

    she posts a picture of kissing a white dude of course with such pride and shes proud of being asian with a picture of lanterns

    LOL !!!

    geez no one needs ur pity if u want to be fucked by white dudes go ahead instead of making this pathetic excuse that ur asian pride helps u feel good about fucking white dudes

  • Rajesh

    The moment I read this, I knew there would be a lot of conflict in the comments. I’m sure Jessica did as well which is why she decided to post for her own entertainment. And I believe she had the courage to post as herself. Good for you Jessica. Normally, someone who cared for their career would not post a garbage piece like this using their real name, but it seems like you won’t need a career as your boyfriend will help glide you through society.

    I’m Indian and came to Canada when I was a toddler. In the 20 years I’ve been here, I’ve realized how privileged white men are. My father used to complain about it when he came here and I used to argue against him as many of my friends were white, but since entering the workforce, it’s become pretty clear. Most ethnic men have to suffer greatly because they are not treated fairly and so understandably get very pissed when they read articles such as above. At work and in relationships, they have to work a lot harder to get what white men can get easier.

    I also want to mention that my difficult experiences dating and asking women out have been with Indian and Asian women. I’ve had two Asian women tell me in my face that they only date white men (of all the reasons they could have used) and an Indian woman, after a year of dating me, break up with me with the reason that she wants to date white men. Getting discriminated by someone of your own race is the shittiest feeling and becomes very discouraging. So, we have white women who usually only date white men, Asian women from Asia who would prefer white men, Westernized Asian women who would prefer white men. Media portrayal has a lot to do with this and most humans are stupid (such as above), so fall prey easily to manipulation.

    P.S. Jeff Douglas is probably Jessica’s or her boyfriend’s account. There is just so much commitment coming from there.

    • Are you seriously complaining about being underprivileged while dumping your misogynistic thoughts on here? I don’t need my boyfriend to help me “glide through society”, I can certainly do so on my own. Women aren’t “stupid” because they choose to date white men – it’s a preference, not discrimination. Is it discriminatory if you choose to only date within your own race (which most people do)? Is it discriminatory to choose not to date transgender women as a straight man? No, because it’s a preference and you can’t help who you’re attracted to. Obviously there are some people who fetishize people of a certain race, but not everyone does that.

      • Rajesh

        Where in my comment did I conclude or even suggest that women are stupid because they choose to date white men? I suggested that you are stupid not because you are an Asian woman dating a white man, but because you are a human who is vulnerable to manipulation by the media. You probably spend 12 hours a day on social media. You also had a lot of time to reply to so many hate comments…go spend your time on properly educating yourself. If you’re going to be in marketing or social media for a full-time job, you should learn not anger half the audience. There is so much flaw in your argument and you appear as being very naïve and sheltered from reality.

        I hope this blog and your boyfriend are not the highlight of your life. You may not need him to help you “glide through society”, but you will end up enjoying the hidden benefit. And, you wouldn’t know what underprivileged means, because you have been surrounded by white friends for most of your life and have never had to work your ass off to carry a family (and probably never will).

        • It’s not my problem if people choose to get triggered by my personal blog posts.

          I actually grew up in a multicultural environment, went to high school with mostly Asians, and dated only Asian guys in high school. Most of my friends now are Asian. I may not know what it feels like to be underprivileged, but it’s certainly not because I’ve been “surrounded by white friends for most of my life”.

          • Patata

            You admit that you wanted to move away from your heritage and preferred whites exclusively (no POCs, just white). You are still with the same person. I doubt you grew up. You have no authority to argue about this topic at all.

          • Chloe Tzang

            You really are some kind of special loser. This is North America. Not dipshitistan. We come here, we assimilate. It’s an increasingly multi-ethnic and multi-cultural society and guess what, that means we mix. My Dad’s white Polish-American, my Mom’s chinese-vietnamese. My partner’s a white guy of Italian-American descent. Should my Dad have only married a Polish-American girl coz that’s his background? Should my partner only connect with Italian-Americans? Grow up, loser.

          • crane

            I love how you made sure you to write the EXACT WHITE identity your dad and boyfriend is, just to try to make sure there are different types of white people like we are all idiots. when it you could of just said WHITE. But its so funny that you fit into the stereotypical HAPA child that came from a stereotypical HAPA family. Your ASIAN mom with a WHITE father, births a HAPA baby, and YOU then have a WHITE boyfriend. Do you not see the correlation? You HAPA girls never date Asian dudes, or even Black dudes. You want to complete your Whiteness by going out with a White dude. You’re defense of this White worshipping Toronto Girl is sheer proof of your self hate of your Asian side. Or else you wouldn’t be defending her so hard. Go have your 3/4 White baby. You’ve already been fucked in the head to think “White is Right” by your mother. Let me guess you sometimes put on Blue Contacts just to be completely White right? lol cause I see that all the time with you HAPA girls. I’m not upset at you, i just want to to admit you’re a HAPA that self hates their Asian side, and you wish to be 100 percent White, and thats the reason why you’re dating a White dude or as you say “Italian-American” lol.

          • Patata

            What a pathetic straw man claim you make that I’m against race mixing. The author made an article in which she specifically discusses “White Fever” / “Yellow Fever”. It is NOBODY’S business to police others’ dating preferences, except when YOU yourself choose to make it a topic of discussion. She can expect to have her relationship judged on the basis of race because it was precisely her choice to bring up this topic in this context.

          • Patata

            Multiculturalism means the coexistence of many distinct subgroups. Multiculturalism is totally incompatible with one-way assimilation.

          • I’d Rather Not Be Here

            Multiculturalism is the equal coexistence of many distinct cultures. Multiculturalism is totally incompatible with one-way assimilation. If you contend that this should be a multicultural country, then the preservation of those cultural subgroups is necessary; like it or not, race and ethnicity is a huge component of culture.

            Otherwise, just admit that you don’t believe in multiculturalism and think people should assimilate and society should be composed of a single monolithic/monoethnic culture!

          • I realized it was wrong to date exclusively white guys before I met my boyfriend. I happened to meet my boyfriend during this time and we hit it off. I don’t have to date someone of colour to prove anything.

          • Patata

            it is your prerogative to date whatever race you want. However, by writing an article like this, you decided to make your personal life subject to scrutiny. You are advocating against an issue like “Yellow Fever” or “White Fever” but you have little voice in this discussion because you hardly practice what you preach. Your words are not matched by your actions.

            As Barack Obama admitted in his biography, the race of the person you date or marry has political implications. You chose to write this article, therefore expect your dating choices to be politicized, criticized and scrutinized. Don’t pretend like you have the moral high ground here and suddenly claim that the people calling you out for your hypocrisy are racist losers.

          • crane

            Just do yourself a a favor..when you decide to have the Asian/White baby you’ve dreamt your whole life of having from being a Asian Female White Worshipper (even though you deny that, its really clear you are, but don’t be ashamed, thats what Western culture will do to a minority like you, especially Asian girls)…make it known your child that he/she is Asian and teach them about their culture and to love their Asian side. White worshipping Asian girls like you tend to forget that and try to force the child to only know they’re White side and often reinforce “White is Right” mentality, which will eventually lead to psychological disorders and self identity issues which then will turn into depression for that child. Because all their life they’ve been taught they’re White and when they hit with the reality from their peers and eventual bullying of their Asian side, they will not know how to handle it.

            Again I’m not bashing you for being a White worshiper, but for the sake of your future child, don’t be selfish and teach him/her to love their Asian side, make it your duty to, because being White for him will be easy since he will be living in Toronto, but him learning his Asian side will be hard unless it is exposed to him from you. The reason I’m telling you is this is because I don’t want you to be part of the statistic, of having a HAPA baby, and that HAPA baby eventually having identity issues, as you do yourself already. That phycological hurdle will even be harder for your child since he/she basically has one foot in, and one foot out of being “White”, the one thing you’ve been chasing your whole life.

            Also if you want more details about what I am talking about, the main example is Elliot Rodgers, you should read about him, he is the prime example of the product you will have in the future if you don’t teach your child to love his Asian side and he is not alone, he just just managed to take it to the next level, he is the stereotypical child that occurs from Asian Female/ White Male relationships. Cheers. I would love to hear your response.

          • JL

            pathetic bed wench uncle tom sellout …

  • Stephen

    Personally as a white guy I feel fetishized by Asian Women. I get a lot of blue eyes comments.

  • jon

    Hot asian girl (no comment on personality) + ugly loser white guy is a common combination. A white guy who can’t get more than a physical 5 from his own ethinicity can get a hot asian girl. One, asian guys are ugly as heck so no difference there and two, asian girls have a white man fetish (i.e. they are seeking the man with the highest perceived social status, even if he works at MacDonalds and plays video games in his free time).

  • Steve Beineke

    Meh…been married to my wife, who is of Korean blood, for 34 years. We have grand kids now. Our youngest daughter married a half-Thai half Mexican guy. So that makes our grandson Korean-German-English-Mexican-Thai. A UN kid. Who cares? We certainly don’t. He is healthy. He is normal. He is. Life simply goes on. This “blood thing” is meaningless in the greater context. Race is but a social construct anyway…so I ask you again….”Who cares?” If you like white guys…go for it. If a white guy has yellow fever…he has yellow fever. It isn’t like it is cancer or something truly sinister. There is a reason people have a particular “fever”. In the case of yellow fever…if you doggone Asian ladies weren’t so darn classy, smart, and beautiful…you wouldn’t have this “problem”. You know what gave me my “yellow fever”? Way back in grade school…like in 5th grade, there was stunningly beautiful Asian girl. I think she may have been the only Asian girl in our school. Not sure. But I was just overwhelmed by her beauty and she was smart as a whip. I don’t remember her name…but I remember her face and I do believe she is the root cause of me being attracted to Asian ladies. I like the look. Period. It is what it is. That doesn’t mean I’m on the prowl for Asian females and never have been. My wife is a very strong woman and through the many years we have been married I find myself more at ease among Korean people than anyone else. Another case of “It just is” and I make no apologies for this.

    • Han Wu

      Because you’re white, so obviously you don’t care? Why would you…? You got it ezpz. Idiot. And, how did someone like you come here to this blog if you don’t care? I wonder…watching porn? Your wife too old?

      • Chloe Tzang

        What about all the chinese guys from China these days who’re heading off to places like the Ukraine to marry white girls? Something wrong with them too? Grow up.

  • S1000rr

    Just a question for asian girls and white guy couples.. why do you couples give me and girl dirty hateful looks when were together.

    My girlfriend is turkish and we live in toronto. I think that it bothers asian girls and white guys when they see that an asian male can do better.

    Someone please tell me.

  • As it is

    Oh come on, Asian girls worship white guys. Its the only guys other than asian guys that their racist parents will accept. I probably saw about 10 asian female/white male couples today. I can count on one hand how many asian male/white female, black male/asian female, indian male/asian female, etc. couples I’ve ever seen.

  • Cof5

    I’m waiting for the condescending white girl column on white guys that fetishize Nordic women. Dump the BS. You want European dick. This virtue signaling is dishonest and boring. Admit what you are. All women love compliments. You live for it. Attention. You can pretend it’s a mental illness, but the fact is you wouldn’t change places with a black girl(that no one fetishizes) if you had the choice. Hypocrite.

    Be what you are. If you were truly “open minded”, you’ve be riding every color of 3rd world black haired flat faced cloned scumbag you could get your hands on. Instead you chose a European. The asian ahole sees this. I see this(a Nordic). You’re the only one that hasn’t come to grips with your choice and your reality. Deal with it. You aren’t the product of your “environment”. You are the product of your DNA and your choices. And you chose to trade up. If you wanted to inbreed, you’d be hunting down We Tu Lo and Ho Lee Fuk right now.

  • BB

    lol you are just a white wannabe bitch…get yourself an asian guy…you will never be white you bitch…and your sons will never be white and get rejected by white wannabe bitches like you in the future

  • Why Are We Still Here?

    Beautiful, to love and to be loved is all that matters, don’t let the haters get to you 😊😊

    • nuts

      PSA: Don’t be deceived by this white man’s sympathy. This expat troll who lives in China constantly makes vile comments about Asians, especially Chinese in particular on Shanghaiist. Below, please find a fine sampling of this double-faced Asian-woman loving, Asian-male hating living-in-China troll:

      http://shanghaiist.com/2017/06/02/harvard-twins.php

      Anyway you are just mad because I slept with hundreds of girls since I came to China 10 years ago. Hope you enjoy your hand.

      Yellow piss slants.

      And what does that make you if your own women rather go with obese White losers over you and your fellow Chinese? Must hurt real bad to know that Chinese men are the most single in the entire world.

      http://shanghaiist.com/2017/05/04/teacher-drags-girl-by-hair.php

      She is not a Foreign man, therefore there won’t be 20 insecure small men with micro-d*cks and a deep rooted inferiority mobbing on her in the name of people’s justice and protecting China from dangerous barbarians.

      THANK YOU FOR SETTING AN EXAMPLE FOR YELLOW FEVER WHITE MEN!

      • Why Are We Still Here?

        Hello fanboy, t-shirts are $10.

  • Shoahshana GoldbergShekelstein

    White men like white women. Only loser, social reject, ugly white guys go for Asian girls.

  • TheSix

    Whatevs, who cares. Asian guys get whatever they want in Toronto, Vancouver and Montreal. https://youtu.be/p4SWsoQLK18

  • Harry Zhang

    all of the desirable asian women in my high school and college (tjhsst and uva) gave their virginity away to a white guy in the us and disguised it as yellow fever.

    then they try to bananarang back after they’ve been pounded to pieces by the white train for 10 years

    just kill me please, with carfentanil

    how would you feel/fix this feeling? assuming you are an azn male who loves azn girls, but was bullied for 14 years by WMAFs and was poisoned to shit blood for 7 years while white dudes covered their cocks with azn virgin blood

    im a single 27 year old azn dude who cured his own incurable disease (and a lot of other diseases/cancers) with magnesium + other stuff, and can beat ~50% of the professional UFC fighters in a mma fight w 1 kick, and can write code, and can perform surgery, and can play the piano, and can do pretty much anything and everything but talk to beautiful asian women. it feels like jumping off a very tall building everytime I see a beautiful asian girl.

    no other couple types parade themselves like you do with pictures proving your love to the world

    if you have to show that you are a woman, you are not a woman
    if you have to show that you are in love, you are not in love

    you were brainwashed to worship the white cock since birth, through vaccinations, tv, books, school, movies and even your own parents probably.

  • Guest

    “Wait, she admitted to having a white fetish between the ages 17-20 yrs old, yet her current bf of over a year is white and she is 21 yrs old. So did her white fetish end very shortly before she got her white bf or did she get her bf before she stopped fetishizing white guys?”

    • I met my bf at 20, and at the time I was talking to both white and non-white guys on Tinder. I thought I made this clear when I made the little mention about other PoC never mentioning the fact that I was Asian, but I guess I should have made it more explicitly obvious.

  • hamburgher

    ” I personally don’t think racial preferences are racist, and I don’t feel the need to debate about it. ”

    You just cant admit that you are a part of the problem of 100:1 ratio of AF/WM as compared to AM/WF. Its not a preference, its a mental disorder at those ratio levels

    • Comments like this are the exact reason why I do not bother responding. If you seriously have something against Asian females dating white males, I really don’t know what to say to you, but that’s your own problem.

      • hamburgher

        continue to put your blinkers on. You know the deal. 100:1 – thats the ratio and you are part of the problem. I feel so sorry for all these rejected Asian males. Asian girl dream of her white Brad Pitt Prince but instead settles for Woody allen or Zuckerburg

        • It might be like that in Asia (I saw quite a few young Asian women with unattractive, older white men in HK) but it’s not like that in Toronto. If you’re writing these comments out of jealousy, I truly feel sorry for you.

          • hamburgher

            you never seem to address the 100:1 ratio of AF/WM as compared to AM/WF and I dont blame you – there is really no good answer except self hate. Asian females are the highest interracial daters in the world with 99%of there target race being ugly white men – you are just more proof

          • You really need to stop throwing around your made-up statistics. And I’m not proof, because my boyfriend isn’t an ugly white man. Here’s an interesting little video about racial preferences: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HjSh_esW9W4

      • JL

        bed wench sellout uncle tom

  • Gui Loa

    As an Asian guy, I’m not going to bash you. If you’re truly happy, fine. I am however, confused by the point you’re trying to convey….

    Your main point at the beginning was that you hated being fetishised by White men. But then….

    you state: “On the other hand, there are also plenty of Asian women who fetishize white guys just as much. If we’re being honest here, I was one of these girls at one point. From the ages of 17 to 20, I was only interested in white guys. I felt like I was sort of “upgrading” in a way by moving away from my heritage. I felt proud that I was more white-washed than all my other Asian friends.”

    then basically “so what changed” “I realised White guys can like me for my features but not my race”. Uhh? What’s the take away message here exactly? ” I hate White men who fetishise my race (Asian), but peoplewho fetishise my racial features (Asian) is okay.” So, basically NOTHING changed for you….

    And with all that being said, you are a hypocrite. And no, that is not an insult, but based on everything you’ve written. As an “Asian activist”, you probably also know the shit Asian guys have to go through in the West, so you’ve basically stabbed a metaphorical knife…intentionally or unintentionally into our backs. At the very least, please stay away from us. AS LONG AS you don’t have anything to do with us and don’t shit-talk about Asians or try to “convince” (brainwash) other Asian women of this so called “upgrade”. Then that’s fine, enjoy your perfectly functional relationship in which you needed to announce to the rest of the world for seemingly no reason at all.

    • Soul_Survivor

      The irony is, a lot of Asian girls are okay with dating out, but they aren’t okay with Asian guys dating out. This is prevalent in Toronto in the university frat & sorority system. It also happens in the Asian social orgs at these schools. It’s known that Asian chicks stake their claim on Asian guys in the frat/sorority system and you hear a lot of shit talking from them when an Asian dude dates out. I know a lot of white chicks that crush on Asian guys, and say they get dirty stares from Asian girls when she tries to go for him at parties or events. Or the spreading of the belief around that white girls are easy and that’s the only reason why the Asian guy is with her.

      Can’t have your cake and eat it too.

    • JiangWho?

      I hate these Asian girls who think we’re happy to be friends with them while they date white guys. They come to us for friendship and date only white men. My friends and I are not blunt enough to say it, but it is insulting. Especially when she invites her boyfriend and he acts like he’s our boss or something. Bunch of tools.

  • Soul_Survivor

    Jessica, a couple of questions about some things you mentioned which I assume you addressed in more detail in your sociology paper:

    1) When you state that you felt like you were “upgrading” when dating a white person, by what metric are you referring to?

    By reading that, I would assume you meant “prestige” when you say upgrade. However, that can’t be what you meant because North Americans typically measure prestige on a socioeconomic level (income, education, career). So, using that definition:

    Asian-American men are the highest earning demographic on average (they out earn every other demographic of Americans based on annual income).

    Asian-American men are also the most educated. They have the highest rate of college graduation. They are also the most over-represented demographic at elite universities (being 4-5x over-represented at schools such as Harvard, Stanford, Yale). Even with racial quotas within the ivy league that heighten standards and limit enrollment of Asian-Americans, they are still over-represented at these schools. At elite universities where these enrollment quotas are removed, it goes to being 10x more over-represented (ex: Asian-Americans make up 4% of the U.S. population but are the majority at Berkeley) .

    2) Females paired with Asian-American males are also the highest earning and most educated demographics. For instance, Asian-American men married to white American women is the highest earning/most educated coupling in the United States. Second on that list are Asian-American men married to Asian-American women.

    So, by what metric did you mean it was an “upgrade”? I’m assuming you meant something other than what normal Americans or Canadians mean when they refer to an upgrade or prestige (socioeconomic advantage).

    Thanks.

    • At 17 I wasn’t thinking about income or education (obviously). In high school I hung around people who thought it was embarrassing to be “too Asian” and were fascinated with white people. I began to think the same way too for that period of time. I thought I made it clear that I was wrong to think that way.

      • Soul_Survivor

        Do you think that’s changed for 17 year-olds today, with the rise of Asian-American media and Kpop culture, or do you think it’s an issue unrelated to media?

        Also, do you think the mentality changes after high school because women start caring more about income/education/prestige? Or do you think it’s an issue of exposure (for instance, women who go to Haas or Harvard Business School are around a lot more Asian-American males then maybe prior in their lives)?

        • I do think things have been changing and will continue to change as Asian American representation in the media gets better.

          I don’t think many people in their early twenties think about those things. After high school you just begin to see the world differently because you’re surrounded by all kinds of different people. I go to school in downtown Toronto and it’s very multicultural.

          And I think the exposure thing makes a difference. I have a friend who dated all Asian guys throughout high school, and is now living in a town with predominately white people and dating a white guy.

          • Soul_Survivor

            You might find this video interesting. Students are from University of Toronto. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xtnC5JdLs5k

          • Name

            Interesting. You’ve responded to this comment, but not those made by others, including those made by people who identify as Asian American feminists and dislike the toxic Asian American male hatred here? :/ If you’re going to try and share your experience and–more aggravatingly–publicize it, then you should be responding to all valid, non-toxic criticisms and questions. If not, as an Asian American feminist, I’m very disappointed that you used your platform for little and continue to spend your days living in an echo chamber refusing to engage in productive discussions. I had hoped that you would do better as a sociology student and representative of Asian American women dating white men. Do better. :/

          • Majority of the comments on this post are not worth my time responding to, so I’m not going to respond to them. I didn’t respond to your previous post because I personally don’t think racial preferences are racist, and I don’t feel the need to debate about it. We all have our own opinions.

          • Name

            “I didn’t respond to your previous post because I personally don’t think racial preferences are racist, and I don’t feel the need to debate about it.”

            …And there it is. Posting an essay about what it “means” to date a white man as an Asian woman, implying that you possess insight into these complex relationship dynamics, yet refusing to: follow up a claim with little to no support, engaging criticism, and openly shutting down discussion, while still promoting this post and your brand. Disappointing.

          • I wrote a post about my personal experience of dating white guys on my own blog. I’m not a “representative of Asian American women dating white men” and nowhere do I claim to explain the “meaning of dating a white man as an Asian woman”.

          • Name

            Furthermore, you did not respond to: “***Also, she does not illuminate AT ALL what it means to actually date a white guy as an Asian girl.*** She simply states that it is something that she’s currently doing, and it’s inexplicably sparked a renewed interest in her own cultural heritage. I truly do not understand the point of this blog post…”

            Do you actually have a follow-up to these valid, non-toxic critiques, or will you shut conversation down once again? I understand that you’re wary of these other toxic commenters who tell you that you’re a “sell-out” and a “whore” (they but some other commenters are coming from a similar place as you and making valid points about other aspects of your post. Yet you refuse to engage in difficult, uncomfortable conversations, even if they relate to your identity? Honestly, how are we supposed to take you seriously?

          • Soul_Survivor

            If you don’t think racial preferences are racist, what is your opinion on these hypothetical scenarios:

            1) You apply for a career at five media and content companies. You are qualified and objectively a better candidate than other applicants. It has been a goal of yours to work at one of these companies. All of them reject you, because they prefer a white female candidate over you.

            Do you think this is racist?

            2) You apply for grad school at Harvard and Northwestern School of Journalism, Media and Content creation. Both schools reject you. You find out that your white friends got in with lower grades, test scores, and worse overall credentials than you. You inquire as to how this happened.

            Northwestern tells you that you didn’t get in because you are an Asian female and they prefer white females for media. Racist or no?

            Harvard tells you, they have much stricter standards for Asians. In order to get in equally to a non-Asian student, you would have to have a 10% higher GPA, 50 points higher on the GRE, and overall credentials. Racist or no?

            In both scenarios, if you apply under the name Jessica Lambert, you get in with a scholarship. Racist or no?

          • Sorry, I thought we were talking about racial preferences in relation to dating here (as that’s what this blog post is all about). Obviously those things are racist.

          • Soul_Survivor

            Aren’t your “racial preferences” the same as those companies or universities “racial preferences” though?

            How is your mentality of racially preferring to date white people, different than a hiring manager or university admission officer’s “preference” for white people?

            Couldn’t Harvard or Fox News argue that they have a right to choose who they employ, just as Jessica Lam can choose who do to date? That, their “racial preferences” do not make them “racist”, just the same as you believe?

            Why do you think your “racial preferences” in dating is okay, if Asians lose out, but in those scenarios they are “racist”?

            FYI: The Harvard scenario is currently a real-life lawsuit. Couldn’t Harvard follow your logic in argument? If you were to file a suit against Harvard for discriminating against you, couldn’t Harvard bring in evidence of this blog and argue “Jessica states that racial preferences within dating do not equate to racism. Just as she has the right to choose who to date, we have the right to choose our students.”

          • The difference is that people can’t choose who they’re sexually or physically attracted to. Does it make you sexist if you decide only to date members of the opposite sex? If you decide not to date someone who’s transgender?

            If I was a hiring manager, I wouldn’t be choosing someone based on whether I found them attractive or not – I’d be hiring them based off of their skills and knowledge. If I’m choosing someone I want to spend the rest of my life with, I definitely have the right to pick them based on whether or not I find them attractive.

          • Soul_Survivor

            Race is different than gender. It’s why the constitutionality of laws which regulate race are analyzed under a higher level of scrutiny that laws which regulate gender. They’re very different issues.

            In the comparison given, the “racial preferences” are the same. You’re just stating that the media company not hiring you because of your race is racist because you directly lose out. A media company could easily say that it’s viewers or subscribers “racially prefer attractive white anchors/reporters like Megyn Kelly, so why can’t hire Asians like Jessica Lam.”

            They could argue that just as you have a right to be attracted to white males, they have the right to please their subscribers/viewers by hiring white females.

            You could argue that their viewers are ignorant, and that they should hire an Asian anchor anyways, because racist/ignorant viewers/subscribers shouldn’t get their way (the whole purpose of affirmative action — to solve problems of ignorance). But, they could just counter the same with your racial dating preferences.

  • CoolJay7

    Stupid, stupid, shameless geisha whores. Just shameless white male cumdumpsters who are proud of it.. if asian men had any dick or balls, they need to move on to other females and breed out their inferior women, they are already doing their part, and even spitting on asian men while doing it. Yet asian guys yet accept this injustice and still continue to love and care for them.. This fucked up world was clearly not made equal..

  • FreetheMind

    There is a reason why when it comes to interracial dating the only choice overwhelming for AFs is white. If people don’t see the irony in that, I don’t know what to say.

    Diversity my ass. Being whitewashed is exactly what’s happening to everyone growing up in a racist society with a media controlled by racist white men whose sole goal is to promote white supramacy 24×7.

    Let a hapa raised under WMAF marriage tell you what really is going on:. http://www.halfasian.org

    Your comment about your WM bf is just my guy shows how naive you really are. If he was black, I am pretty sure you won’t go anywhere near him. That’s why plenty of white supramist alt-right assholes love brainwashed Asian women.

    • First of all, I don’t know why you’re assuming I’m racist against black people. Second of all, supremacy*

      • Meadows-Choi

        Usually a symptom of white worship/supremacy is black hate is probably what he means.

  • Johnnyboy

    WMAF is white supremacist pairiNg. It’s reminds of how whites raped so many Asian women in Asia during war. It’s shameful and they are disgusting. So many Asian girl hate themselves because the grew up in a racist white media. The irony is they get bottom barrel white men. There are so many news story about white men murdering and abusing their “Asian wives”. It’s problematic when the first thing your SO sees is “Asian”. That’s how they describe their girl friend and wives.

  • Name

    Another comment from an acquaintance:

    “‘There is a difference between having yellow fever and simply being attracted to the physical features of people from a certain culture.’ — what’s the difference? Isn’t that basically the definition of yellow fever? Also, she does not illuminate AT ALL what it means to actually date a white guy as an Asian girl. She simply states that it is something that she’s currently doing, and it’s inexplicably sparked a renewed interest in her own cultural heritage. I truly do not understand the point of this blog post…”

  • qiuwei

    [ There is a difference between having yellow fever and simply being attracted to the physical features of people from a certain culture. ]

    [ I felt like I was sort of “upgrading” in a way by moving away from my heritage. I felt proud that I was more white-washed than all my other Asian friends. ]

    you are not attracted to them, you just envy them. and using an excuse claiming that we have reach a post racial generation is dishonesty. because all of us had and are still experiencing covert racism in the society we are all trying to escape. if you really believe we are in a post racial world, why do you see yourself as an asian? why do you feel more proud of your heritage. the world has become more racialise not less, the hate obama got, the neonazi movement across US and EU. canada is not immune, even in asia, we are not immune.

    the real test for adam isn’t when the world around him hasn’t throw racism at you, the real test for adam is when the world do, how will he react to defend you! I suggest you test him. then you will know if he is worthy, then you will know if you are worthy.

  • Name

    22 year old Chinese American woman graduate in sociology and media here. I’m also dating a white man. Thank you for being willing to share your experience in an AW/WM relationship, especially when you’re forced to be the public target of a very vitriolic and toxic AM audience. :/ I identified with some of what you said, and even though your post was short and only hit the surface of a complex topic, I know it provides some insight to others.

    However, it was very disappointing to read: “There is a difference between having yellow fever and simply being attracted to the physical features of people from a certain culture.” Having racial preferences is racist. Your writing on this subject demonstrated some nuance, but not enough. I’m glad to hear that you’re learning more about the dynamics and history of sex, racism, the racial hierarchy, colonialism, and imperialism, and connecting them to your heritage, but hopefully you will use those experiences to think and write more deeply.

    • JL

      white worshiping bed wench

  • Yang Li

    Man a lot of insecure Asian male haters here. Truth is guys, regardless of whether Jessica is a white worshipper or not, Asian MEN would be to blame for it if it was true. Sure western media have portrayed Asian men in an unflattering light, perpetuated myths about Asian male penis sizes, but we are responsible for our own image and respectability. Many Asian men I know are quite inept at talking to girls, very shy and seldom have a good sense of humor. Asian men are socialized from a young age to not go into sports, become actors or pursue non-traditional careers. Can you blame Asian women for liking men from other races? Sure its great if we are all doctors, lawyers and accountants. But we as Asian men need to evolve as much as you are blaming Jessica for choosing to date a white man. The problem is partially external but internal as well. check your perspectives Asian men.

  • wow

    lmao just read the comments, you study sociology, holy shit

    you do realise there is no set standard on what is considered attractive, what we perceive as attractive is purely based on conditioning, please dont try and learn your parent’s languages or ever date asian men, normally id give people the benefit of the doubt but considering the sheer idiocy of this post, id appreciate it if you could mentally convert yourself to a white girl, dont have kids either, you’d end up hating your half asian son

  • diary of a sellout girl

    you’re well intentioned but the post is absolute garabage, when your boyfriend dumps you and you hit the wall, i really hope you dont con some poor asian sucker into marrying you

  • John

    > From the ages of 17 to 20, I was only interested in white guys. I felt like I was sort of “upgrading” in a way by moving away from my heritage. I felt proud that I was more white-washed than all my other Asian friends.

    Stuff like this just shows that you are a brainwashed , sellout who can not think independently. Yet another mentally weak asian women with shit for brains who can not think for herself , so she believes in white supremacy and thinks of herself as better than other asians. You are kidding yourself if you think your so called relationship isn’t saddled with connotations, from the get go your relationship was founded on the shoddy thinking that “Whites are superior”. What are you , tilla tequila? The other (asian) women who also thinks shes white and part of the aryan race? You think your upgrading ? LOL. You just sound like someone who is clearly insecure in their ethnic identity.

  • Proud White Amerikan Male

    Great Article! I love me some submissive Asian Gook for muh big white dik. WHITE POWER

  • Ken Morgan

    Wait so you acted against white worship by going white worship?

    This is hilarious!

    • Jeff Douglas

      Do you know what else is hilarious? Probably your pathetic little dick otherwise you’d have better things to do than get jealous of other people’s relationship. It’s not white worship, it’s avoiding twats like you

      • Ken Morgan

        Ahahhaa you know what’s hilarious you actually think you’re white have you ever considered one drop rules? You’re not white. You’re not Asian either and you’re not going to be welcome in ANY GROUP.

        • Jeff Douglas

          I don’t think I’m white, I think I’m half white and half asian. I also think you’re a complete racist cunt

          • Nishi Hundan

            You’re a loser, Jeff.

          • JiangWho?

            Jeff Douglas. Sorry, but you sound like a total waste of oxygen. You are the boyfriend of miss above? You guys are meant to be together. Keep your hypocritical racist shit off the internet (You are the racists). I can see this shit spreading Toronto like a disease. 20 year old Asian girl with 60 year old white men calling it love. It’s ok to do this but then advertising it as love to other people. fuck off. It’s gotten to point where matchmakers are complaining in Toronto about their racist clientele. Its only this bad in Toronto (The most multicultural city in the world!). Multicultural to nobody’s advantage but white ..

      • someone1o1

        White boys always obsessed with dicks. Your obsession with cocks even created niche porns where you losers sit and jerk off to black dudes fucking your girls.

        Truly disgusting.

        • Byron Shell

          Actually most of that is black dudes getting off thinking they have a bigger dick than whites. That’s why interracial porn is most popular in the south where there are so many AA.

          • someone1o1

            Sure..

    • Jamal Edwards

      Yall niggas weird asl

    • JL

      typical bed wench behaviour

  • CoolJay7

    Get pillaged, you basic asian whore. If you believe love is colorblind, then why are there so many of you? If you just want “cuter” half asian babies, why arent any other race of females just as crazy for some? Because people like you are shameless white ass-kissing toys with fake “pride”. What pride anyway? Pride in getting pillaged by white guy after white guy in hopes you become white yourself? Jesus. No wonder you make such pathetic families and miserable children. Thats why every successful half asian you can name, are the ones with asian fathers. Asian females growing up in the US or those that majorly consume western media are largely affected by this complex, and a lot of you are not even aware of having it. If deep down you really think an aryan man is your prince charming, then I advise you to wake the fuck up and take your head out of your own ass.

    These men have no shame calling you their little yellow geisha fucktoy. And you’re proud of it too. In fact they are the only option you will ever have, bottom shelf white boy after another and another. In the end, asian females always end up marrying racist trash, turns out all the high status whiteys she were with only wanted to fuck an asian, not end up with one. You are their proud-to-be last resort, their plan B if they were hopeless, sexless, white losers. They know you’ll be there for them. And you’ll be there for them, with your ass up in the air. Please, wake up.

    This comment from an aware black female sums up the rest of what I have to say http://i.imgur.com/k1BUXxe.jpg

  • Jeff Douglas

    Half Asian man here. I didn’t know I was supposed to hate myself so thank you all for that lesson.
    Also, y’all are racist misogynistic pricks. It’s 2017 and last I checked women can be educated and *gasp* date who they want

    • Thanks for saying that Jeff! This comment section has gotten way out of hand, lol.

      • FreetheMind

        Read the reality of WMAF

        Longingfordeath.wordpress.com
        Halfasian.org

        Read it from a hapa who was raised by WMAF.

        Most WMs that end up with AFs are simply racist fucks. Many white supramists marry AFs. If you think that’s normal and full of diversity, you might as well bleach out your genes now.

  • Alan Lau

    FUCKING SJW EVERYWHERE. STFU

  • John

    Korean American man here. This is yet another story about Westernized Asian girls who try to justify their worship for White men and hate for Asian men. Trust me, you’re not the first Westernized Asian girl to go on about how you “discovered” your culture after dating a white man.

    This is just so hypocritical of you to do. Just call it what it is: your love of White men and hate of Asian men. At least then other people like me will give you some tiny ounce of respect that we may still have for girls like you. This is the reason why I do not date Westernized Asian girls anymore; FOB Asian girls yes; oher Western girls yes; girls like you no.

    You should stop with the “I love my culture now” after dating white men. I hope you know everyone else will see you as a walking joke. Other Asians (those who actually love their culture), Blacks, and Spanish will see right through you. Absolutely disgusting.

    Also, do the world a favor and do not have kids. With someone with your kind of thinking, your Asian looking sons/daughters will have some serious mental issues/not respect you.

    • Jeff Douglas

      Half Asian man here. Maybe this is why you’re single? Because you have no respect for women, Asian or otherwise and you’re racist. What doing you think will happen as a result of this? That she’ll leave her white man and date you, some internet prick who probably doesn’t have enough brain cells to run together? You’re pathetic

      • Proud White Amerikan Male

        Jeff, are you so butthurt you just HAD to reply to everyone in the comments?

        It must suck seeing your asian cumslut getting woke and rejecting white worship.

        • l0lnah

          jeff douglas and harry hogfart. butthurt white trolls who enjoy getting triggered and making pathetic troll atempts.

        • Thinkitthrough

          He’s half so why aren’t you talking about the white half?

      • DanCohen

        Can you develop on how is he racist and misogynist?

    • Jeff Douglas

      Also I think it’s hilarious you think you actually have the option to reject Asian American girls as if they would be interested in racist scum like you. No self respecting woman would want trash like you so I wouldn’t even worry about telling any woman what your type is. Chances are they’re not interested and if they are they could probably do better

    • YourHusband

      At least in America, the asian girls who date out their race tend to be the uglier asian girls. However, I’ve seen asian girls in canada who were actually quite attractive dating white guys, so asian canadian guys have even more right to be bitter than the ones down south. I think one reason is that in canada, there are very few hispanics and blacks, meaning more white people, and that means asian canadian guys have even more white guys to compete with when it comes to getting asian girls, and based on what everyone else is saying, they seem to be losing the battle pretty badly.

      On a side note, i’ve also seen quite a few examples of attractive white american girls dating or married to asian guys, but never seen one with a attractive white canadian girl.

      • Truestory

        This is very true. I’ve yet to see an attractive Asian girl dating a non-Asian guy.

        • Eduardo Baker

          you must live in a cave. I have seen plenty, both in the usa and asia.

          • Why Are We Still Here?

            Meh, don’t bother mate, It’s the way lonely men make themselves feel better about their inability to get female attention, Asians are no exception. “Yes, but only ugly {insert own race} women date {insert other race} men”.

            The truth in all this? I’m currently living in China, my girlfriend is a professional cosplayer with well over half a million followers on Weibo, mostly men, also girls. And yet she is with me, a White guy, not because of the color of my skin but because I fell in love and took an opportunity when we met through a common friend (a cool Chinese dude, not hating on our couple) and it took a lot of courting to win her heart, it didn’t happen over night, also speaking the language helps (I’m fluent in Mandarin).

            So yeah, she has that many followers which is a lot when compared to other Chinese cosplayers and keeps her profile strictly professional with cosplay and conventions photos, nothing about her private life, friends or the both of us, because she knows that some lonely and bitter men would call her ugly and unfollow her if they found out that she is dating me, a White guy.

            So you see, its not about the girls being ugly, it’s about those men’s inability to get any of it, not getting any of it will drive any man in this state of mind eventually, doesn’t matter what race or culture he is from, we are preprogrammed to find a suitable partner and to pass on our genes, this overrides any cultural specificity, not being able to do so is the biggest failure in life for any straight man. You can fairly assume that any man hating on his race’s women dating other men has been lonely for a very long time, perhaps for ever.

            Knowing then and how predictable they are, they will probably reply to my messages with insults, nonsensical theories or made up statistics, all of which I choose to ignore, bitter men being bitter, keyboard warriors who are otherwise harmless.

          • BB

            white privilege bullshit..go back to your country and fuck your mom

          • Why Are We Still Here?

            Says the virgin boy pretending to be a girl on the internet. Hopefully one day you will grow up and stop finding excuses for your own failures. Have you ever thought that maybe the reason why no woman has ever wanted you isn’t because of White privilege but because you are a spiteful moron.

          • BB

            lol do you know me you pink trash? you are just a reject from your own white girl and use your pink privilege on chinese girl….china is growing….whitewash bastard

          • Why Are We Still Here?

            Sorry man, China’s growth isn’t going to grant you more pussy because what matters when it comes to women is the individual. What do you think? That when China is rich women will get all wet because you are Chinese? LMBO wake up man, that’s not the way it works.

            Also rich and successful Chinese don’t care about your butt and are okay with interracial dating, I know a few of them myself and there is zero hatred towards other races in their minds, they are the ones driving the nation, not basement dwellers like yourself.

            Finally, most Chinese are nice people, so just because your own existence is a complete failure doesn’t mean that theirs also is, don’t drag an entire race of people down to your sorry level.

          • BB

            Lmfao…you should say that to yourself…your sorry ass got rejected by pink bitches so you go to China..you are a total reject….sorry ass level….china is growing in war power…later your sorry ass pink trash wont get to see the day…fucktard

          • Why Are We Still Here?

            I love you too but you should really see a therapist, for your own good.

          • Eduardo Baker

            hey, as you said, why bother? Some people let media and internet trolls control their ideas and not think for themselves. I love it when people say Western man with asian woman was rejected by western woman. Their stupidity is beyond their own comprehension. So I tell them, you got it backwards, I rejected western women. Yes, prior to going to college, my life was 100% western women but when I went off to college, it all changed my freshmen year. I became good friends with some foreign students and my life changed forever. I fell in love with a foreign girl and from that experience and those that followed, I chose to look for a non western wife, she did not have to be asian, just not western and it was my choice in the prime years of my youth.

            When I started working in NYC, I worked with alot of Asians from Asia, not americanized. Immediately I became close to alot of them and we had a lot in common from a personal standpoint. So of course, the attraction was there and life happens. Man likes woman, woman likes man. After having a few Asian GF’s, I actually thought about just not getting married (because there is good and bad in all races). However, I finally met a woman, who I initially blew off because I had enough of the gold diggers and the games. But she was different. She was modern on the outside, but inside, very very traditional from East Asia. I still apologize today for be difficult to here when we started dating, but it is self preservation.

            Thus, one thing led to another and wow, I got lucky. I have never experienced love or a relationship in every aspect as with my lovely wife. I could write books on her. Is she perfect? Nobody is, but she is very close to perfection in my world.

            You are right, hatred and jealousy are abound when strangers see us, but many, when they actually have an opportunity to talk to us, they say, yes, you 2 make a great couple. You see, it is the perception that is wrong, until they get to know the truth.

          • Byron Shell

            Wait I thought white men are the ones who people say are racist. I think were seeing who the real racist people are….

          • Guest

            Your girlfriend would dump you is she discovered the love of a powerfully endowed Black man.

          • I’m Done

            Your mother jerks off pigs. She gets down on her knees and crawls through the pigpiss mud slop and snuggles up to the pig, her fingers tracing along it’s belly until she finds it’s cock. She begins tugging and stroking as her twat moistens, her breasts swelling and her nipples begin to stick out like erasers on a fresh #2 pencil. She grunts with satisfaction as the pig begins eagerly thrusting into her hand, her grip now tightening to maintain control of the pig’s greasy corkscrew cock. She lowers her head to watch the cock work in her hand, groans with satisfaction and begins working her clit with her other muddy hand, her hips gyrating with the rhythm of the pig’s thrusting.

            “Oh fucking jesus god yes..” she gasps. She changes positions, still maintaining control of the feverishly thrusting cock as the pig’s squealing intensifies. She leans forward and with her lips almost touching the pig’s ear, she whispers your name and begins to shudder. She turns her attention again to the pigs swollen member rocking in her hand. She presses it between her hand and her face, the pig thrusting it against her cheeks as she drools. With a massive grunt and a high pitched squeal, the pig’s balls explode, beginning a massive shower of hot, sour pig jizz. You mother cups one hand under the fountain of steaming genetic material gathering it in her hand as the thrusting comes to an end. The pig shudders and begins to walk to the trough of slop in the corner of it’s pen, but your mother tackles it to the ground. She lifts it’s tail and smears the handful of pig load into the pig’s own fetid butthole, turning flakes of crusty pig shit into a pigshit-pigjizz mud slop on the pigs ass. Now she tilts her head to the sky and screams your name, not once, not twice, but three times. She slams her face full force into the pig’s butthole and it’s wreath of shitsemen pudding, her tongue machine gun flicking the rim and then burying itself to the hilt inside the pig’s hot colon. Your mother works her tongue around the inside of the pigs ass, and then as a few incoherent syllables escaped her now brown lips, spurts of female ejaculate spurt from her pulsating cunt. Exhausted, she collapses in the mud, rolls over onto her back, and lights a cigarette. She takes one long drag, looks again to the sky, and speaks your name one last time before she drifts off to sleep.

            That’s your mom. Your mom does that.

          • BB

            nice imagination fucktard…lmfao…retard overloaded..

          • JiangWho?

            Let me tell you that your one single story doesn’t mean shit on this whole topic. When an entire population starts trending towards something, it is not because of small “love” stories like yours coming together. It’s because of external factors that are affecting entire populations (where your little cute story doesn’t mean shit). These factors include media portrayal such as the feminizing of Asian men on tv. People are stupid. You are likely…very stupid. You think the only reason your girlfriend went for you is because you were “the one”? No…it’s because there are a million little factors playing in her brain including her image of white people as a population which shes seen in movies, tv, commercials, etc. It’s easy to call bitter men bitter when you’re sitting on a higher seat.

      • Jamal Edwards

        Why lie lol them fine bitches love black guys

      • JiangWho?

        I live in Toronto. You will see FIFTY to SIXTY year old white men dating really good looking young Asian women. LOVE IS LOVE BABY! LOL Never seen an older Asian guy with a young white woman!

    • Thinkaboutit

      Well they’re not naturally mutually exclusive. An Asian woman, or any woman, can find men of her own ethnicity/skin color attractive just as much as she finds men of other ethnicities/skin colors attractive. Simply because she likes a man that happens to be white doesn’t mean she can’t like a man that happens to be Asian. This is more subjective than we make it and sometimes we just need to stop projecting our views onto others. IF she genuinely cannot see color or doesn’t care about it then fine, IF she is personally rationalizing her feelings or is trying to seek validation then she knows that in her heart and will have to deal with that burden on her own for the rest of her life. That’s on her and it’s not your issue to have to deal with. There are bigger things to care about life, especially in your own life. Don’t worry about whether other people are being true to their own morals and ethics. If they live lies, then they will have to deal with the consequences. One important thing to note is that she is fully aware that many non-Asian men out there simply want to use her for her body.

    • Jamal Edwards

      They dont want yall lil ass shrimp dicks nowadays 50% want black dudes and 50% want white dudes lol

      • BB

        lol brainwashed stereotypical nigger slave ass monkey…

        • Jamal Edwards

          Another shrimp dick pretending to be a female lol

          • BB

            what? you have a shrimp dick? no wonder..lmfao…only insecure little dick fucktard talking about dick on the internet….good luck nigger

        • Guest

          After eleven inches of Black love your girlfriend won’t remember your racist name.

      • Endofzworld

        Well your kids are gonna have shrimp dicks…You can say that to your kid when he grows up.

    • Max Valentine

      what shes saying is that she not just someone who worships white dudes she discovered that shes really an asian who worships white dudes

    • JiangWho?

      Strongly agree with this.

    • Guest

      Those Asian women you’re talking about are scum unless they prove they are not racists. To do that those Asian women need to date and sleep with Black men. The experience will improve them as lovers.

  • JL

    Asian women are such pathetic disgusting sellouts, the weakest and most feeble minded of all ethnicity of women. They have no respect, pride or loyalty in their Asian heritage, culture or race whatsoever. A bunch of white worshiping uncle tom sellouts that strive to be white. No wonder so many get plastic surgery to try look white, dye their hair blond, get colored blue contacts, get eyelid surgery to make their eye bigger etc….. or commit suicide from low self esteem (they have highest rates).
    They always say love is color blind or some pc bs, but they reject other non white men like Indians, or blacks. They won’t admit they chase white men for hyper-gamy and status climbing.
    They are the MOST racist of them all.

    • Jeff Douglas

      I’m sure your mother is so proud to have a racist misogynistic cumstain like you as her son

    • Byron Shell

      Wait, I thought white men were evil racist. Now that they are willing to date/marry other races people are getting all bent out of shape.

      • Endofzworld

        They still are, but they wont shy away from easy pussy. My coworker is a giant racist douche white guy but he has a Chinese girlfriend. Actually a lot of the white guys I know dating Asian girls are totally different when they hang out with me vs with their girl. You can’t blame em…these guys have it so easy like you don’t know..

    • Guest

      Asian women aren’t rejecting Black men today. They seek us out so we can give them something new. The beautiful ones marry us, and the homely ones go back to marry an Asian guy without telling him she went Black. But each time she makes love with her Asian husband she dreams of the Black man or men who brought her sexual fulfillment.

  • wasteman

    From how narcissistic this title; ‘WHAT IT’S LIKE DATING A WHITE GUY AS AN ASIAN GIRL IN 2017’, and post reads.

    I doubt anyone believes you have matured or got over your self hate. I hope your future relationships with white guys work out so the Asian community can be rid of you.

    It’s actually tragic that Asian women have earned themselves the stereotype as easy sluts for white guys, no other ethnic minority has this problem

    • JL

      yep. I hear white guys referring to Asian girls as “yellow cabs” all the time. Cheap easy ride they say.

      • Jeff Douglas

        I have literally never heard my white friends say this. This is the first time Im hearing the term. And from an Asian. Maybe you’re the problem?

        • hamburgher

          white men say it all the time

  • Ben Davis

    White worship reinforces the eurasian beauty myth which reinforces narcissism within half-Asian children who are at risk of mentally breaking down once Anglos remind them that they look a lot more Asian than they realize. The sexual frustrations for looking Asian for Hapa males will only lead to devastating consequences that may threaten the safety of innocent people. Elliot Roger murdered Asian men as they reminded him of his own insecurities and he murdered a few white girls due to his mysogynistic views for all the neglect from women.

    • Jeff Douglas

      Yes because we’re all Elliott Rodgers (Sarcasm)
      Don’t use your fake concern of half asians like me to justify your hate of Asian women. You’re just a misogynist! There was no excuse for what Elliott Rodger did so stop using him as your Jesus to justify your racism.

      • Ken Morgan

        You are all Elliott Rodgers. Mixed children are massively over represented in mental health and crime.

        There is also something called the uncanny valley effect. Asians and whites subconsciously think there is something wrong and that something isn’t right.

        It’s survival instinct because who knows when they’ll pull guns and go on shooting sprees.

  • Prateek Bhatmal

    You are just another pathetic Asian girl with a White fetish.

    You are what I call as an MCG – mentally colonized garbage.

    Yuck.

    • sherlock tang

      No need to insult her. She is just a brainwashed naïve young Asian girl. Once she gets educated on how internalized white supremacy works in western countries and why people of color self hate and worship whites, she will change for the better.

      • Jeff Douglas

        Why don’t you up the misogyny level up by also telling her that she should date Asian men to please them.
        Newsflash, twat: women of any color don’t owe you or anyone anything. Maybe if you stopped treating them like they’re all the same, you could finally lose that pesky virginity of yours. Wouldn’t that be great!

    • Jeff Douglas

      And you’re what I call a CFB – Cum For Brains

      • l0lnah

        cum for brains OOOHH DAYUMMM THAT HURT

        what are you 12?

      • Prateek Bhatmal

        whiteboi got TRIGGERED!!! lmao

    • CoolJay7

      Believe me brother, we all know. We just need more of us voicing our opinions when we’re done laughing behind the backs of these asian escorts with their white chumps. I envy you indians as our other asian counterpart, your women have actual dignity, I hope the indian generation growing in the US wont get corrupted like ours did.

      Black females are aware too.
      http://i.imgur.com/k1BUXxe.jpg

      • Jeff Douglas

        “YOUR women??” You don’t own women. They’re not your slaves. This attitude may be why women don’t want to date you! Stop being a misogynist and a racial purist you cock-nosed cut price Goebbels

        • l0lnah

          you trolls aren’t very creative hey? it’s always the same shit over and over again. i suggest you go finish school and learn what context is. it is clear he is talking about belonging to the same race rather than ownership. you’re an idiot who uses feminist arguments yet would go and complain that all white women are fat whales and feminazis, hence why you’re here defending this mentally colonized brainwashed white worshipper.

    • JL

      admire Indian women, they are quite loyal, proud of their Indian heritage and culture.

  • Jessie Chung

    Hey Jessica, I read your post and as a Chinese Canadian girl myself, couldn’t agree more with what you have to say! The world is so big and there are so many different people. It’s absolutely ridiculous to expect that women of colour only date within their own race and to condemn them as self-loathing internal racists if they don’t. In fact the comments that some people left here show just how real of a problem this is- it’s no less racist to say that all people who date outside of their cultures are fetishizing entire races than it is to date someone purely for the colour of their skin. Of course there will always be people that want to date you just because you’re Asian, or white, or whatever else they’re into, but that doesn’t make every interracial relationship unsubstantial and fetish-based.

    I’m not going to lie, there were moments when I felt like you did, that I was somehow upgrading by dating a white guy unlike the rest of my Asian girlfriends. I think that kind of mindset is hard to avoid in a society where white supremacy is so very much alive, and it’s one of the many struggles that we have to deal with as children of immigrants in a Western country. That sense of white supremacy is the very thing that empowers these haters to lash out at you for your “unconventional” relationship; they’re assuming you have no better reason for being with your boyfriend other than the fact that he’s white. I didn’t initially date my boyfriend for the colour of his skin, but growing together in our relationship has certainly taught me that there are a million reasons why I chose him, none of which would change if he were Asian instead. There is a fine line between having a fetish and a preference… we’re choosing who we want to enjoy a romantic, intimate relationship and share our lives with, of course we’re entitled to have preferences!

    I guess the bottom line is that people will always judge you- if you date outside of your race, you’re an internalized racist; if you date only within your race, you’re just a plain racist. So don’t ever let people discourage you being with who you want or writing about what you want. Honestly, I am so glad you decided to write about this (apparently) controversial topic, because it’s so important to get the conversation started to combat these negative, backwards opinions out there. I wish you the best of luck with everything, girl! Keep blogging and thanks for the amazing content!

    • sherlock tang

      White skin is most important. Then comes personality. How many blacks have you dated? Hispanics? native americans? middle eastern? If America is so diverse and we promote all races and cultures, why are we promoting only white? If we all bring pasta, pizza, hamburger and diet coke to a “multi cultural pot luck”, would you still call that a multi cultural pot luck? So why put the white man on the pedestal? If putting people of color down is racist, isn’t it just as racist worshipping the white skin? WMAF are built on race and white supremacy, wmaf sends out the message that white male superior asian male inferior, how is that healthy for any half asian kids? that’s why so many half Asians learn to self hate their asian side? wmaf is toxic whichever way you look at it.

      • Jessie Chung

        Hahaha thanks for listing out all the minorities in such detail, but sadly I don’t have an entire world map to tick off every time I date someone from a certain country. Wouldn’t it be a bit racist if I treated people like trophies to be won, just to prove that I’m the tolerant and open-minded person I already know I am? Oh wait, that’s the exact same thing as finally sealing the deal with your “first Asian”, or landing that white guy as your boyfriend because “I know I’m good enough to get one”! Mate, people are entitled to date whoever they want, and if they happen to be black, hispanic, aboriginal, or middle eastern, good for them. If they happen to be white… well, also good for them. And FYI pizza and pasta are Italian, plus the ancient Greeks and Persians baked flatbreads with cheese that inspired the modern pizza. How multicultural eh? 😉 Peace.✌️

        • THANK YOU!! 🙂

        • chrisredfield31

          You didn’t even address Sherlock’s points. Gaslighted.

          • Jeff Douglas

            He had no point. Kind of like how your life has no point

          • Sorry man, didn’t realize this was a structured debate. Though if it were, I’m pretty sure the both of you would already have been disqualified for the racist remarks and foul language. Tough luck 😐

        • JL

          You’re a disgrace. You will forever be fuck toy for white men. Congrats on sellout your race and your heritage.

          • Jeff Douglas

            You clearly sound like a stable human being.
            What did you think telling her that would accomplish? That she’ll leave her boyfriend and date you, some nobody troll off the internet?

          • Thank you so much, Jeff. Reasoning with close-minded people is no different than screaming at a brick wall; if people insist on thinking in a bigoted, prehistoric manner, we can’t stop them from doing so. What we can do, though, is spread the message that it is absolutely unacceptable to perpetuate racism, sexism, or any other form of discrimination from behind the security of a computer screen. Really do appreciate the support!

          • Ken Morgan

            Is JL wrong though? I don’t worship whites!!! Then proceeds to worship them.

          • Jeff Douglas

            Who said anything about worshipping, you illiterate shit head! In case you haven’t heard, women have equal rights as human beings and are in no way obligated to date you or anyone they don’t want to! Why would anybody date any of the men on this thread?? All you do is insult them and act like you own them! Like they’re the crazy ones for not wanting to be treated the way you’re all treating them – you’re not entitled to their bodies you useless marzipan dildo. How about instead of blaming Asian women (who are not YOUR women, they don’t belong to you) you take a hard look at yourself and I’m sure you’ll find enough reasons why no one wants to be with any of you. Asian women aren’t at fault. White men aren’t at fault. YOU are. You’re driving them away with your sense of entitlement and politicizing their relationships.

          • Ken Morgan

            Hey you know which race enacted THOSE WIMMIN BELONG TO US LAWS? The USA white supremacist central. So you’re accusing me of claiming ownership of them?

            These laws existed till 1967 with Virginia vs Love. So get your head out of your ass.

          • Jeff Douglas

            You know who also got rid of them? A black and white couple! You are entitled and a prick get your head out of YOUR ass and read a book

          • Ken Morgan

            People on this thread keep linking to you studies and books precisely on this subject.

            Yet all you can say is shut the fuck up when we destroy argument after argument of yours.

          • Ken Morgan

            No, what usually happens when white men use them as sex toys in their 20s then they suddenly find their roots. We call them Banana rangs and they seek out an Asian man.

    • Thanks so much for the lovely comments Jessie, I totally agree with everything you said! There will always be negative people out there, so you might as well just live your life as positively as you can. Wishing you all the best this year! ❤️

      • l0lnah

        you were seeking validation for your white worship. unfortunately you only got it from one white worshipping asian and a butthurt white male. lol

      • BB

        lol you are just a white wannabe bitch…get yourself an asian guy…you will never be white you bitch…and your sons will never be white and get rejected by white wannabe bitches like you in the future bitch

    • CoolJay7

      Okay slut, we get it. Diversity and accepting, memes, blah blah. Chances are you’ve dated mostly white guys, and its obviously some coincidence. Fuck off to your white master. http://i.imgur.com/k1BUXxe.jpg

      • Jeff Douglas

        She’s a slut?? For not dating someone like you? That just makes her smart, you apalling cunt-faced bastard. Quit slut-shaming women and maybe you’ll spend your weekends away from your usual date, your hands

        • l0lnah

          whats your IQ? you miss the point with just about every single comment here

          • hamburgher

            because he is a white guy

          • Adam A Khan

            I’m a light skinned Pakistani guy born and raised in Toronto. I am 6ft tall and I am an ex Muslim athiest. I also attract a lot of Asian women. I don’t think they like “White” guys, but rather Westernization. However, I tend to date Asian women, because during my every day life, I usuallyy end up attracting them. My current GF is Korean.

    • Soul_Survivor

      “The world is so big and there are so many different people. It’s absolutely ridiculous to expect that women of colour only date within their own race and to condemn them as self-loathing internal racists if they don’t”

      So, by that statement do you think it’s okay for white males to expect white women to only date within their own race?

      Historically, East Asians have been far more progressive on this front than whites. Neither China, Korea or Japan has had bans on interracial marriage up until the late 1960s (See Loving v. Virginia). Also, acts such as the Chinese Exclusion Act allowed white males to bring over Chinese brides, but not for Chinese males to marry white brides (Chae Chan Ping v. United States is still considered good law and highly influential to U.S. immigration law, and there was also a version of this act in Canada).

      Currently, the results of where racial minorities live, why they live there and what the demographics of interracial relationships have a lot to do with those laws. For instance, why do you think there are so many Asians just “happen” to be in Toronto?

      You seem to be focusing on a very small segment and targeting minority men while ignoring what historically a much larger segment of white men do.

    • hamburgher

      yep – but mysteriously it always white guys – lol – continue the delusion self hating asian women

    • BB

      lol you are just a white wannabe bitch…get yourself an asian guy…you will never be white you bitch…and your sons will never be white and get rejected by white wannabe bitches like you in the future

    • JL

      pathetic bed wench sellout

  • Ouch, I can’t believe I am reading a lot of these comments.

    I am Filipino/Indian, but I grew up in the Bay Area where there primarily Filipino and Latino guys, so that’s what I liked when I was in elementary school. When I moved to Sacramento, it was still extremely diverse (but with more white people) and most of the guys I dated were white. I did prefer the skinny white males…and unfortunately, I would have to agree with sherlock tang that internalized racism and colorist still exists. I can’t tell you how much I was bombarded with whitening advertisements and products whenever I walk into Seafood City or when I went to the Philippines, and my friends, relatives and acquaintances are scared of being darker. It is heartbreaking for me when I see beautiful women in the media who don’t look like me, because white is still the ideal.

    Even though I did have a preference for skinny white guys, my fiancé is larger and Mexican/Filipino. But we connect in every level, and he has treated me SO much better than any of my exes did. We have that connection and understanding of our upbringings with both of us being Filipino (but yet, both of us are not 100%), and it really helps. We talk about so many things related to being Filipino-American, from the food to religion to our fellow peoples’ mannerisms. It helps that we can easily go to a Filipino restaurant and not worry about him squirming (he actually likes more Filipino food than I do). But all that aside, he is my best friend, I love him and he ended up being the opposite of the guys I chased after. You never know where life leads you to! And I couldn’t be any happier. He brings me so much joy. Thanks for this post!

    Hannah
    Floraful

    • Thanks for your input Hannah! This is all really true, where you are and the people you’re around affect who you date. In high school I mostly dated Asian guys because the majority of people there were Asian. I’m glad you found happiness with your fiancé – congrats on your engagement! 😊

    • sherlock tang

      Sacramento huh? Right on. I live near Seafood city.

      • Small world, haha! I live in Elk Grove!

        • sherlock tang

          I live by CRC

        • JL

          bed wench

    • Yoon Dahyoung

      I sincerely hope your fiance dumps you. ” I did prefer the skinny white males…and unfortunately, I would have
      to agree with sherlock tang that internalized racism and colorist still
      exists.” He sounds like a good guy who deserves better than your racist ass.

  • Yiacho Pan

    Asians and Whites are have higher IQ’s and are superior, this can be evidenced by looking at cities like New York and Hong Kong, compared to slums like Mexico city and other hellholes in the 3rd world. Look at this list, not a single non-asian or non-white country in the top 30!

    LOOK https://iq-research.info/en/page/average-iq-by-country

  • Sarah Ruite

    Asians and whites >

  • Chris

    Any white guy who dates an asian girl is only doing it because he couldn’t get a white girl of his own race.

    • sherlock tang

      Not all, but true in majority of the cases. It is extremely rare you’ll see a brad pitt looking guy with an asian girl. Usually the white dudes are beta, kinda fat, nerdy, meek and homely. so you got a white social reject male dating an asian social reject female with some mental issues with white worship and self hating. It’s a disaster whichever way you look at it.

      • Jeff Douglas

        You would know all about social rejects wouldn’t you?

    • Jeff Douglas

      And any internet troll who whines about white men stealing Asian women is more likely to die alone

  • Dan

    Lol Adam is a great guy, and the people in these comments are fucked!!! These commenters are so racist towards white and asian people I think they may be jealous, especially because you are happy, meanwhile they hate themselves and are unsuccessful, thus they blame the evil white man for all their problems. Its an old trick that is losing its effect.

    TRUMP 2016-2024!

  • Ben Davis

    Jessica, I’m not sure you know this but this is what countless of Asian women who chase after white men say. They lie to themselves because they don’t want to admit that they themselves are racists or white worshippers. These anglocentric beauty standards are deeply ingrained into your views that you think any man that is non-white is not as attractive as a white man. At this point, it does not matter what you say because you have already accomplished your goal of landing a white guy. Now if you break up with him in the future and date an African man, then I will be certain you are not a racist.

    And please understand that half-Asian children born under white father and Asian mother are highly at risk of inheriting racist views and developing psychological issues because majority of these children are likely to look Asian as they grow older. It’s very important that you guys do not teach teach these children to love themselves for their “whiteness”. And please understand that these children will experience racism some point in their lives from people like you who turn down men that do not look white. It’s a vicious cycle that will continue to happen until Asian women learn to stop placing the white race on a pedestal.

    • Jeff Douglas

      Did you know that condescending mansplaining comments to women about a subject you don’t know anything shrinks your penis size? Do you think that may be why you have it out for interracial couples? You’re overcompensating

  • mai lin

    Now everyone has internet. How can people of color still date whites (both men and women). They are racist and cruel.

    • sherlock tang

      You need to explain your comment. How is a racist and cruel? What is racist and cruel?

      • guest623

        Whites are racist and cruel, is what she said.

    • Dan

      Mai Lin you are racist

  • sherlock tang

    I want you to check out two books, they are on amazon. They are written by a clinical psychologist. First book is “Internalized Oppression: psychology of the marginalized group”. Second book is “Brown Skin, White Minds: Filipino American Postcolonial Psychology”. This author is a Filipino clinical psychologist who had colonial mentality/internalized white supremacy when he was young. Now he is a clinical psychologist trying to help the people of color up in Alaska, especially the native American tribes.

    • Jeff Douglas

      You should check out a book called shut the fuck up

  • sherlock tang

    Malcolm X in 1962 telling blacks not to hate themselves and worship whites. 50 years later, we are still the same. We still put the white skin on the pedestal. Why do you think blacks and Filipinas need to bleach their skin to be like the whites? Are we here to unite people of color and fight against white supremacy? Or are we all here worshipping whites? What difference do you want to make, Jessica Lam? Help Asian community hate themselves, divide them, teach them to worship whites? Or teach the youth of Asian community and other ethnic communities to love themselves and not hate themselves? Internalized white supremacy is very real, as you have experienced it yourself.

  • William Jones

    Another Asian trying to compare herself to Asa Akira when she looks nothing like her. Nothing new here, the guy was clearly being sarcastic. I doubt you’d be saying he compared you to another person if he said you looked like Susan Boyle, give me a break. It’s like me walking up to an ugly, fat blonde and saying she looks like Alexis Texas and having her believe it. Unbelievable, stop flattering yourself woman, you are not that good-looking.

    • sherlock tang

      oh come on, don’t be so mean to her. She’s just young and naive

      • William Jones

        Eh, I thought I might as well enlighten her. She’s like a 6-7/10 comparing herself to a 10/10. Kind of comical lol

    • Nowhere did I compare myself to Asa Akira, but good on you for being so emotional that you left me a paragraph 🙂

      • William Jones

        You’re funny

    • Jeff Douglas

      I give you a 2.
      It’s either an appearance rating or how big I think your dick is. Take your guess

      • William Jones

        Okay, Jeff Douglas, lol

  • Bruce Mathis

    Diary of a toronto girl? could she not find ANYTHING else to write about?

    lol is it canada or just the worthlessness of the 21 year old female brain? Or just her? We’ll never know.

    • Bruce Mathis

      oh yeah, imagine how much of a dork her boyfriend has to be to date her for this long. They are the poster couple for “when women control their men in this new participation trophy era.”

      one article and I already want to deport her.

      • I write content for females in their 20s, not for random dudes from random forums 😊 thanks for the useful comments though!

        • Bruce Mathis

          putting smiley faces and acting polite doesn’t mean you are right.

          It just means you are full of sh*t. If this content is what females in their 20’s are interested in, well.. they are just as pathetic.

          🙂

          • I’d appreciate if you took your racism/sexism elsewhere Bruce. Enjoy your night and your forums!

          • Prateek Bhatmal

            The irony of telling others to take their racism elsewhere while being a racist herself. lmao. Do you know why Trump won and why SJWs are mocked? Its because of people like you who profess racial equality while acting as white worshiping losers. When people see that SJWs like yourself don’t even believe in what they are talking about, nobody will take your calls for racial equality seriously. lol just go away.

          • I’m not a racist, nor do I worship white people lol. And I can’t go away, this is my blog.

    • Jeff Douglas

      You sound like a well-adjusted and mature grown man.
      Dickweed

  • sherlock tang

    This black business owner who internalized white supremacy destroyed his own business because he refused to hire blacks from his community but only hired whites. He believed hiring white people would create a successful business, black employees are failure to a business model. All people of color are facing the same fucking thing- internalized white supremacy. And it’s destroying all of us, all our lives, it divides us. How can we unite and fight white supremacy when we are worshipping a white man? You tell me, Jessica Lam.

    http://www.gradientlair.com/post/33721046645/internalized-white-supremacy-black-business

  • sherlock tang

    If you got Filipino friends, ask them what “colonial mentality” is. If you are interested in sociology and psychology and ethnic studies, this is a great topic to research. Why is there such a high rate of Asian women marrying out in the western world? And why marrying only white? Why white male the most desirable? Of course there a few rare ones with Asian with blacks or Hispanics, but they are EXTREMELY rare. 99% of asian women who marry out are with white men, it’s a fact. If you ever do a research paper on sex, race, imperialism, colonialism, white male privilege, it’s all related to colonial mentality, internalized white supremacy, self loathing, etc. Why do we worship white man? After all, Jesus is white man, even when history has proven Jesus was a brown man from Middle eastern (that’s before white people painted him with white skin and blue eyes). When we need to disparage or look down upon our own people and favor whites, that is a mental illness.

    • Nick James

      Colonialism is better, look at all the countries that were colonies are the best countries in the world. USA, Canada, Australia etc. and even Hong Kong and South Africa etc.

    • Jeff Douglas

      How about that, I didn’t know I was supposed to hate myself and my mom. Thanks for the lesson

    • Eduardo Baker

      sherlock – keep believing that westernized feminized BS about white supremecy/colonization because it has nothing to do with the reality of why in the modern world, western men are rejecting western women and seek out real women. They are not just asian, they are women who are not western women. All this BS coming from the left is nothing but an excuse to not blame western women for their failures. Most western men are looking for a life partner for love, respect and support, not another man who acts like everything is a competition. We want a life mate who knows how to respect, care and love for another human being, which western woman have lost. That is a fact and people can make up all these BS arguments, you will never get it. Trying to put western culture on eastern culture is not only an insult, it is racist, sexist and down right disgusting. I can tell you, asian women are not weak, docile, stupid or doormats. The contrary and that is why we are attracted to them. They are smart as hell, tough as nails, supportive and committed like nothing I have ever seen in the west. They run circles around western women and there is no comparison. western women are so beneath asian women that it might take 2 or 3 generations before they even start to compete again. Please, stop insulting the intelligence of asian women because it really shows how racist and sexist you are as a person, let alone your ignorance.

      • OMG

        100% correct. My feelings written by another brother bitten and ill treated by western woman. Western woman in the most part regardless of race are bottom of the barrel. Not all of us are fooled by their bigotted nonsemse about white males. You an hear the endless complaining about why they cant find a mate, they blame their looks. No girls, your attitude stinks, we will continue to look elsewhere.

        • John Sung

          It’s white males fault for them becoming like that…? Go fix it. Stop going from society to society, corrupting it all.

    • Anon

      Well written post. I’m not Filipino, but I approve your comment.

      Telling ourselves that Toronto is multicultural, multi-ethnic and accepting just makes the point of AFs selective dating of whites and exclusion of non-whites stronger. If we were in an all-white city, their choice of only white, because there are no other ethnicities, would be believable. But we are in Toronto, non-white eligible guys are all over, and it’s 2017!

    • John Sung

      I’m surprised half the population of Asian women weren’t at the white supremacist rally…..siding with the white supremacists.

  • Chris

    I’m not Asian, but for some reason I get so rustled at how many Asian girls say they’re not attracted to other Asians. Self hating phucks.

  • sherlock tang

    “My “whites only” attraction neatly disguised my distaste for
    all men of color. At the time, I didn’t see this attraction to white men as a
    product of racism; it was simply my preference. But I had learned this
    preference somewhere.

    In fact, colorism – or the idea that lighter color skin is more attractive – is
    a remnant of colonialism, where the conquered are seen as lesser, uncivilized,
    and undesirable. Over time, colonialism takes you down psychologically.”

    http://everydayfeminism.com/2015/02/on-internalized-racism/

    • Nick James

      Colonialism is better, look at all the countries that were colonies are the best countries in the world. USA, Canada, Australia etc. and even Hong Kong and South Africa etc….

      • sherlock tang

        Yet, these are the most racist white supremacist countries in the world. I don’t know about HK though as it is dependent now. Philippines had 500 years of colonialism, look at them. exploited by the white man in 1500s, still getting exploited by white man in 2017. Colonialism is not better for the country. It put the country in identity crisis. People self hate and worship white.

  • vincent fontana

    Cool. Another set of anecdotes from someones personal experience with idiots that blankets an entire race of men. Which is also.. drum roll.. sexist and racist.

  • sherlock tang

    This Asian woman hated her own race for 30 years and now she is a reform.

    http://www.ozy.com/true-story/i-tried-it-being-white/38961

  • sherlock tang

    Have you heard of the clarks doll experiment? It’s a classic child psychology experiment from the 1940s. Little kids don’t lie. Internalized white supremacy/oppression began at a young age. That’s why I always tell the Asian community to teach their kids their native Asian language and culture, if you go whitewashed, if you assimilate into the white culture, you will only hate yourself and your own race. When you assimilate, you are telling yourself that you are go by the white standards. And it’s a losing battle, you’ll never win, you’ll never be white, you’ll only be second to whites. At the same time, you have rejected your own ethnic culture because you find it inferior. You don’t speak a lick of your Asian language, so you have trapping yourself in limbo with lots of psychological issues. Rejected by both worlds. And that’s why I see so much self loathing in Asian Americans. They don’t know who they are. Asian Americans are a big group of confused people who want to be white but not white, who is Asian but dislike their own kind.

  • sherlock tang

    White sexual imperialism. Lots of history behind wmaf relationship. Good read. White dudes cannot commit sexual imperialism unless the Asian women participate. http://scholarlycommons.law.wlu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1243&context=crsj

  • sherlock tang

    So you have internalized white supremacy huh? You used to worship whites and self hate, believed white is more superior to nonwhites, and now you are a “reform”, or that’s what it is called in the half Asian/Asian community. The whole yellow fever is created by white fever and white fever is fueled by yellow fever. It’s a cycle. You see white dudes go to Asia as sexpats because he knew Asian women like you want him, Asian women created a sense of entitlement/reinforced white male privilege for white dudes. You don’t see white sexpats go to middle east to look for women right? why? ’cause they knew they are not wanted there. So AF created this atmosphere for themselves and white dudes. And white dudes feel they are entitled to Asian women because they knew there are mentally ill people like you who suffered internalized white supremacy. It’s a cycle. But why is it bad? It’s the real main question.

    Let me introduce you to the biggest half Asian forum on the net. This is r/hapas where thousands of hapas come and share their emotional devastating psychological issues regarding being born and raised by an Asian mom who self hate her own race and worships whites and a white man with yellow fever. The half Asian community has concluded that ALL wmaf relationship are toxic racist relationships because it is built solely on race, even if you deny it. If “love” is truly colorblind, it is 99% of all Asian women who marry out are with white?

    Just read what these hapas are saying. It’s quite an emotional journey for them. Many of them kill themselves due to their toxic parents. Look at what happened to Elliot Rodger and Daniel Holtzclaw.

    https://www.reddit.com/r/hapas/comments/58rwna/read_before_posting_the_2017_eurasian_half_asian/

    • I had no idea about that, and I’m sorry if you’re one of those people. As I said at the end of the post, I see my boyfriend and I as equals. I sure as hell do not worship him. You can believe what you want – we’re all entitled to our own opinions. It may seem hypocritical that I’m dating a white guy while saying I don’t date guys just because they’re white anymore, but my views changed while I was dating my boyfriend. I’m not going to go date some other dude of another race to prove a point.

      • sherlock tang

        Jessica, you are studying sociology yet can’t see the bigger picture. I’m sorry to hear that. But check out that r/hapas for more info. Those half Asians hate wmaf very much because they have seen the worst in this kind of relationships.

        • Chloe Tzang

          Total bs. I’m “hapa” and you are so out to lunch on that one. Stop projecting your own inadequacies.

      • Terence Cheung

        we’ll see in a few years. the relationships forum on reddit is disproportionately filled with posts about asian girls who want to have kids and a family and the white guy doesn’t want some half chinks for kids.

        almost as if the girl was good enough for bed but not worth the effort of starting a family with.

        • Jeff Douglas

          My white dad never called me a chink you racist punk. Maybe this is why you’re single? Because you don’t respect women and your racist? Stop projecting

      • CoolJay7

        You admitted having a white fetish at 17-20, your boyfriend of a year is white. What a fucking coincidence right? Pull your own head out of your ass and just admit you’re a proud geisha cow exclusive to white men. Lets stop lying to ourselves here. There are billions of you white chump and asian escort couples everywhere. The world views you with pity as a laughing stock anyway.

        • Jeff Douglas

          So what they should instead date a racist misogynist like you instead? Don’t make me laugh! You don’t own women and their not entitled to be with you, though unacceptable thundercunt

      • CoolJay7
  • Sean B

    You work in social media. Therefore you add nothing to the world. You are a parasite.

    • Thanks for your valuable and relevant input on this post Sean! Glad to see that it affected you in some way 🙂

    • John

      lmao- 21 year old girl, writing about “dating a white guy in 2017.”

      What a waste of space. Get an education.

      • I don’t know why you’re so angry, but as a close-minded random taking the time to write angry hate comments on some girl’s blog post, I definitely think you’re the one who needs to get educated!

        • John

          Is that your only response for literally any negative comment on here? My demeanor was more of disbelief that people like you exist to entertain the low-brain-function readers that find this that intriguing.

          If that is angry hate comments to you, I truly feel bad for you and the rest of the liberal lefts- news: you live in a harsh world, go check it out.

          • Calling someone a waste of space sure sounds like hate to me. It really sucks that there are people in the world that lurk the internet writing horrible comments, but hey, it’s a harsh world

        • Guest

          You need to expand your horizons. Your white partner is holding you back. Move on if you want a fuller education.

  • This is such a great post Jessica!

    xo
    Catherine | Beauty by Catherine

    • Thank you Catherine! 😊

      • BB

        lol you are just a white wannabe bitch…get yourself an asian guy…you will never be white you bitch…and your sons will never be white and get rejected by white wannabe bitches like you in the future

  • Holly Jean Benjamin

    such a great an honest post! Glad you found such a great guy 🙂
    xx
    Holly
    http://www.styledbyholly.com

    • Thanks Holly! 😊

    • BB

      lol you are just a white wannabe bitch…get yourself an asian guy…you will never be white you bitch…and your sons will never be white and get rejected by white wannabe bitches like you in the future you slave

  • Tracey Sands

    Thanks for sharing and spreading awareness…it’s definitely an interesting experience being a single woman, let alone other characteristics that makes objectify. Nice work!

  • As a fellow Asian dating a white guy, I relate to this on a spiritual level! I also have been through a phase where I thought I was “better” than the other Asian girls who (in my mind) “couldn’t get” a white guy but that really started to change when I actually started dating white guys and realized I was being fetishized, if not by them then by their friends. I remember my old college boyfriend (who was also white), complained that someone said to him they thought he was dating me because he “couldn’t get a real woman” which was horribly offensive on so many levels – it really made me rethink dating people and not dating people because of their race. I hated that someone would consider me not a “real woman” (what does that even mean??) and I realized by going out of my way to not date Asian men I was doing the same to them.

    My boyfriend is Irish Catholic and I think our relationship works because we just have very compatible personalities and similar goals in life. That’s really it! I love my boyfriend and he just happens to be white and he loves me and I happen to be Korean American. It took me a while to get to a point where I could date someone without overthinking the race relations side to it but I’m glad that I’m in a supportive relationship with a person who loves me for who I am.
    Anyway, Thank you so much for writing this post! Obviously I have a lot of thoughts on this subject haha!

    • I’m so happy you could relate – thanks for sharing your story Deborah! I haven’t seen anyone else with the same opinions so I’m glad I’m not alone haha

      • mai lin

        Even your bf said white guys only want sex not relationship. You’re still date them? You’re so helpless. Pray for your soul. Amen

        • Nope, that’s not what was said. Please read properly before you comment!

          • mai lin

            Anyway what are you doing in tinder if you are already in a relationship ?

          • They were screenshots from 2014 and 2015

          • mai lin

            Ok. But did you use it just for sexual hook ups? You’re so young and not ugly. You don’t need it.

          • No I didn’t, but thank you!

          • mai lin

            Hey what do you think about the guy Sherlock gang’s comment. I just clicked on his link. Its really opened my eyes (no pun)

          • Jeff Douglas

            You’re racist

          • Jeff Douglas

            Slut shame much? Read the post! She did this before she was with her boyfriend and even if she did want to hook up, who cares? How is that any of your business? How does that affect you at all? Dumbass

      • Timjames

        I am an Asian male and i can fully relate, never dated an Asian girl my entire life, it used to be racism based on thinking white girls are better, I still only date white girls or any decent non Asian girls, I just find white girls have much better features than Asian women. Just a preference. Same with my friends, non of us date Asian women, we all just find white women better.

    • mai lin

      YOU girls have no shame. Are there no good Asian guys in your town? The ones like you that give other Asian girls like us bad name, like self hate or white wannabe. What’s so good about white men? If you want big dicks why don’t go for black guys or latino guys? Smh.

      • Did you actually read the entirety of my comment? I wrote that I felt bad for thinking that way. I also wrote that my boyfriend and I love each other and we happen to be the races that we are. I understand that this may be a touchy subject but please read the content before posting in anger. I’m not going to leave my healthy relationship to date an Asian man to make a point to a stranger on the internet.

        • mai lin

          Well isn’t sad that people view Asian women like that? Why is only Asian women have these kind of stereotypes easy sex, cheap whites, self hate,… As fellow Asian female its so hurtful seeing those spread out all of internet nowadays. What’s so good and “healthy” about relationships like that?

          • sherlock tang

            The real people they are hurting are their future hapa kids. Asian women do not see any issues with wmaf. Asian women that are in wmaf are oblivious to any of these racial issues. They think they are white, or almost white. And by being with a white man, they believe it strengthens their whiteness, their status in society, white integration, etc. There is nothing healthy about these wmaf. This union is built on race, white supremacy, self hating, asian fetish and colonial mentality. They get brainwashed by movies and the media. It’s a big disaster waiting to happen when they have kids. Look at Elliot Rodger. His asian mom taught him white is better than asian. ER hated half of himself his whole life. Finally too frustrated, too angry, and did the unthinkable. wmaf are toxic racist relationship that both people can’t see the problems.

            https://www.reddit.com/r/hapas/comments/58rwna/read_before_posting_the_2017_eurasian_half_asian/

          • mai lin

            Oh wow. So its like karma? Anyway, I clicked that link. They seem do really hate Asian women there huh? That too much.

          • sherlock tang

            Imagine you are a half asian boy born to an asian mom who self hate and worship white and a white dad who has yellow fever, you are born and raised in a hostile violent white supremacist environment. That’s why so many hapas coming from wmaf are mentally ill when they get older. How can you be proud of being a half asian when your own mother hated her own race (asian men) and culture and favor whites? it’s a contradiction. Your asian mom hates asian men, yet here you are, a half asian boy. You know how much psychological damage these half asian boys experience from their mentally ill mothers? Many of these hapa kids grow up self hating their asian side because of their mentally ill parents. Here’s a study made by UC Davis on biracial asian americans. 1 out of 3 hapas is mentally ill.

            https://www.ucdavis.edu/news/biracial-asian-americans-and-mental-health?id=8732

          • mai lin

            So you said people in that sub are all mental ill because they’re all mixed races ? I don’t think I like to join in group like that.

          • sherlock tang

            I wouldn’t say they are all crazy psychotic like Elliot Rodger. But they definitely had gone through a period of mental disturbance in their lives. And this forum r/hapas helps them unite and solve some of these issues and perhaps prevent another Elliot Rodger disaster of mass shooting. When you first read it, it feels like it’s full of hate. Then you slowly begin to understand where it is coming from —- their wmaf parents!!!!!! They just have so much anger and frustration because of the environment they grew up in. I truly feel very sad for them and want to help them. They post new articles everything, you should join and discuss.

          • Jeff Douglas

            I am a half Asian boy with an Asian mom. She literally never did this

          • sherlock tang

            White sexual imperialism. Lots of history behind wmaf relationship. Good read. White dudes cannot commit sexual imperialism unless the Asian women participate. http://scholarlycommons.law.wlu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1243&context=crsj

          • Yiacho Pan

            Asians and Whites are have higher IQ’s and are superior, this can be evidenced by looking at cities like New York and Hong Kong, compared to slums like Mexico city and other hellholes in the 3rd world. Look at this list, not a single non-asian or non-white country in the top 30!

            https://iq-research.info/en/page/average-iq-by-country

          • Terence Cheung

            when i share this kind of topic with people, i tend to name drop to get my point across. It makes you plenty of enemies but idgaf.

            creepy white guy and self hating asian girls are so common theres got to be at least a few in your social circle.

            i just tell people “imagine if x whitey and y asian girl were your parents – then throw in the toxic racial dynamics” and ask them if they wouldn’t turn out mentally ill

            much more effective when people have real life examples to look at

          • Jeff Douglas

            You’re an idiot. Please never have children as they will surely lower the average IQ of the whole street you live in

          • Jeff Douglas

            Hey you know who else is part Asian and white who didn’t hate himself? President Obama

          • hamburgher

            president Obama is not part asian – are you stupid

        • sherlock tang
          • Jeff Douglas

            I am half Asian and listen to me: please take a step back and fuck your own ass

        • Terence Cheung

          but you admitted to thinking that dating a white guy felt like you were upgrading.

          you may not have outright said that you hate asian men. but you certainly seemed to think think white is better.

          don’t some of the most horrible fucking wars in the world occur based on this idea ?

          • I have been trying not to comment any more but I’ll respond this last time.
            Yes, I did think that when in the past. When I was 13. Because I grew up in a predominantly white area. I’m currently 27 and I’m not the same person I was. I’ve dated Asian men since then who I’ve had great relationships with that just haven’t worked out for reasons that had nothing to do with their race (for example, on one occasion, my Asian boyfriend moved to another state). I don’t hate Asians and I’m not self hating and frankly, I have cousins who are half white who are perfectly self-aware of their identity – they speak Korean fluently and their Asian mothers are actually more domineering than their white parents. They saw this comment thread and were horrified at people who weren’t actually Hapas making claims on their behalf. I hate this assumption that I can’t possibly have a relationship with a white person unless I’m self hating or that a white person can’t love me unless he has a fetish. It’s dehumanizing and frankly racist. You can’t possibly know anything about us based on one comment and I honestly feel discriminated against by my own people.
            Finally, there was a lot of talk of imperialism. I happen to be Korean American. The only country that colonized Korea is Japan – another ASIAN country. Asia is a lot more diverse than everyone is making it out to be.
            Please don’t assume anything about anyone. You don’t know my life or my boyfriend’s.

          • chrisredfield31

            >their Asian mothers are actually more domineering than their white parents

            That’s not a good thing.

            >It’s dehumanizing and frankly racist.

            You got your just desserts. What you did was overtly racist and somehow we’re supposed to believe that you’re reformed and changed in your ways? Gimme a break.

          • Jeff Doiglas

            Fight racism with more racism. Oh and misogyny – that’ll show her.
            Prick.

      • sherlock tang

        That’s true. You are spot on. These self hating white worshipping Asian women are the ones who reinforcing this bad image of Asian women who is worshipping white man.

      • Michael Terry

        lolol Asia dominated by Britain and USA, sore loser, colonialism is working wonders for Hong Kong.

        • sherlock tang

          100 years ago you maybe right with opium war and all. In 2017, both UK and US owe trillions of dollars to China. I say in 50 years, China will top America. And HK is not even part of china nor UK, they are independent.

          • Brian_Dell

            “HK is not even part of china nor UK, they are independent”

            If the UK had not handed HK over to China HK would likely be independent by now. But China is never going to let HK go independent.

    • Ben Davis

      Not surprised. You are literally one out of countless Asian women dating White men. You aren’t helping yourself by trying to rationalize. We know what’s really going on.

      • Jeff Douglas

        What is going on? Please enlighten us? How would you know what goes on in that relationship?
        There closest you’ve ever gotten to a vagina is when you came out of your mother’s so pardon me if I don’t take your relationship analysis too seriously

    • Terence Cheung

      when that mean stranger said you weren’t a real woman, they were referring to the stereotype that self hating asian girls throw themselves at any white guy – implying that you are easy as long as the guy is the right skin colour.

      were you ? only you can answer this question

      • Not that it’s any of your business but again, he was a STRANGER. Not someone I knew, just a person making assumptions. Like you are right now.

        • chrisredfield31

          It doesn’t matter if he’s a stranger. That stranger still knew the order of the day. A white guy will always prefer a white woman and that he can’t get a white woman is an embarrassment. Even your boyfriend knew but you were the only one oblivious to the whole thing.

          • Jeff Douglas

            A white guy will prefer whatever the fuck he wants. For example I’m half white and I prefer you go fuck yourself

    • chrisredfield31

      He didn’t “just happen” to be white and you “just happen” to be Asian.

      • Jeff Douglas

        No they just decided one day to buy their races at a grocery store because it was on sale.
        (I’m responding to your ridiculousness with more ridiculousness)

  • I love this post, girl. You speak the truth. Asian women are still getting sexualized and are seen merely as a fetish. It’s something that society definitely needs to work on together. Thanks for sharing <3

    Enclothed Cognition

    • Thanks Keri! I was actually inspired to write this post because I wrote an essay on it for my sociology class haha, there’s a lot of interesting history behind all of it

    • Ben Davis

      Actually, Asian fetish is the result of Asian women being readily available to white men. Men are just being men by accepting what ever is being given, and the majority that offer the path of least resistance is Asian women. Why? Status-obsessed Asian culture and the legacy of colonial imperialism. But I don’t understand why Asians are continuing to ignore the pervasive issues of racism and white worship. They don’t realize that they are constantly being ridiculed by the West. For example if an Asian man travels to America, he is met with hostility for his race. He is emasculated. BUT when a white man travels to Asia, he receives undeserved white privilege simply because he is white. And why is plastic surgery so common in Asia? What’s with this obsession for “tall noses” that is only present among the caucasoids? Why can’t Asian women view their Asian features as beautiful?

      • sherlock tang

        Internalized white supremacy is hurting a lot of people. People get brainwashed by racist Hollywood movies in the west.

    • JL

      Asian women complain about getting fetish-ed and sexualized by white men. But they re-enforce and propagate the same exact stereotype they hate by dating them. Its as much Asian women’s fault these stereotypes exist in the first place.
      White men can objectify, stereotype, Asian women, and Asian women still date them in droves! Totally utterly pathetic.

    • Marshall lee

      No, it’s something Asian women need to work on alone, don’t try to bring the rest of society into this