I am a very shy person. I’ve been an introvert all my life, and I’ve always preferred being alone over being around people. If you can relate to this in some way, I really hope this post can help you. I get that it’s difficult to break out of your comfort zone, but I think it’s essential to help you grow as a person. Here are some of my tips on how to step outside of your comfort zone and become more comfortable with yourself.
1. Let the people around you be your inspiration
One of my good friends, Jerry, has always been my inspiration when it comes to social situations. He’s confident, polite, and outgoing, and he’s someone I model myself after when it comes to being in social situations where I don’t feel comfortable. My boyfriend, Adam, also inspires me. He always tells it like it is. I used to be the type of person who avoided confrontation, but after being with Adam for so long, I’ve started to feel more comfortable with standing up for myself.
2. Just go for it
I recently attended a media event alone, something I’ve never done before, and I was absolutely terrified. Food bloggers seem to all know each other, and since I’m not a food blogger, I didn’t know anyone. I started introducing myself to people and people started introducing me to others, and the night got off to a good start. After awhile I began to retreat back to my shell, but I was really proud of myself for at least trying. Whether you’re trying something new or doing something you have to, all you have to do is tell yourself “I can do this” and do it.
3. Don’t be discouraged by negative people
You will encounter bad people in your life – that’s just the way things are. The important thing is to not let them get to you.
4. Don’t be discouraged by negative situations
“Sometimes, you have to get knocked down lower than you have ever been to stand back up taller than you ever were.” There will be times where it will feel like life has gone to shit and you won’t want to break out of your comfort zone, but never forget that things always get better. I promise they will.
5. Keep practicing
Remember that things won’t change overnight, and you have to keep working for it if you want things to change. Be inspired by people you admire, take chances even if they terrify you, and don’t let negative people or situations get you down. You’re a tough cookie – I know you can do it.
Photos by Shay A.
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