How Blogging Helps My Anxiety

How Blogging Helps My Anxiety

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Despite reading on the internet and learning in my psychology electives, I never really understood anxiety. I was never sure if I had social anxiety, or if I was just shy. It wasn’t until I started getting anxiety attacks last summer that I started to understand. It wasn’t until I cancelled on plans last-minute because I was terrified at the thought of being in a room full of people I thought would find my presence annoying and unwanted. It wasn’t until I realized that being quiet during conversations because I was afraid of stuttering or accidentally offending someone wasn’t normal.

I don’t really want to delve into my personal life, so I’ll just get on with it. I don’t believe that all mental health problems can be solved on your own, but I truly believe that having a positive mindset and making the effort to make things better for yourself can really help. Blogging is an outlet that has allowed me to connect with other people with similar thoughts and feelings, meet people and practice my interpersonal skills, feel more confident in my work and myself, learn to not care what negative people say or do, and take things less personally.

Disclaimer: This post is made up of my own personal experiences and opinions and is for informational purposes only. If you rely on any information in this post, it is at your own risk. When in doubt, please seek help from a professional.

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1. I’m able to connect with others by writing out my feelings

From time to time, I write self-help type posts like how to deal with your negative thoughts. I write these kinds of posts whenever I’m feeling bad about myself, and it really helps to be able to talk to myself (and you guys) through writing. It honestly means the world to me when you guys send me messages saying that you can relate – it’s wonderful to know that you’re not alone!


2. I’ve met such wonderful people in the blogging community

There are so many bloggers here in Toronto, but the community is so welcoming – I’ve met so many kind and inspiring people through blogging. I once went to an event by myself where I didn’t know anyone, and there were two people there who introduced me to everyone else and spent their time with me. It’s pretty terrifying for me to approach or talk to people I don’t know very well, but going to events really forces me to put myself out there.

At my very first blogger event, there were a few other girls and they mingled with each other when the presentation was over while I was standing in the corner by myself. I should’ve put myself out there, but I was afraid they didn’t like me so I ran off without saying bye to any of them. I’m still not as outgoing as I’d like to be, but I really try to put myself out there as much as I can.

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3. It makes me feel more confident in my work and myself

I’m by no means an expert at anything I talk about on my blog, but it seriously makes me so happy to see that my posts actually help people. For example, I spend a lot of time researching about and trying new things on Instagram, and it’s amazing when people actually find my tips useful. Writing quality content that helps other people makes me feel like I’ve achieved something, and that makes me feel much more confident in myself.


4. I’ve learned not to care what negative people think

When you put yourself out there online, you have to expect some negativity. It sucks, but that’s the world for ya. I had one of my posts go slightly viral earlier this year and it got (and still gets) so much hate, I couldn’t bear to read the comments anymore. After awhile, I began to realize: these are faceless people angrily typing their one-sided, judgmental thoughts at me through a computer screen. I didn’t know these people and I shouldn’t have cared about what they were saying. So, I stopped caring.

When you stop caring about what people think of you, you stop worrying about whether they’ll judge you. What other people say about you or what they do to you should not affect how you live your life.


5. I’ve learned not to take things too personally

Building on the previous point: not everyone is going to like you, not everyone is going to like your work, and not everyone is going to say nice things about your work. It’s not a big deal. I once had an anxiety attack because a company I worked for deleted my email without notice and I lost a lot of important emails. It was shitty of them, but I took it too personally. I feel like a lot of people in the blogging world take things too personally (like when people unfollow you), but it’s so much more easier to just relax and not think too much of little things.

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While I’m still not the most extroverted person, I feel like my anxiety has gotten significantly better during my blogging career. Obviously you get out what you put in, and I actively make the effort to change things for myself. I think other lifestyle changes like trying to be more positive have also helped with my anxiety.

If you’re looking for ways to help your anxiety, write it out, talk to people, put yourself out there, meet new people, and do things that make you feel proud of yourself. And if you ever need someone to talk to, I’m here for you.

Remember: if you have good thoughts, they’ll shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely (an amazing quote by Roald Dahl).

Photos by Jasmine L.

Jessica Lam

Jessica Lam

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  • That is good that you are able to find outlet through blogging. IN some regards, I can feel you – I am socially awkward and anxious. Working on my blog has allowed me to connect and open myself up more in ways that I never have before!

    Abby | Life in the Fash Lane

  • Jessica, this post is the bomb dot com. I so relate to every point you made and it reminded me why I keep on blogging. Thanks for such a great post!

  • Annette Dattilo

    Great post Jessica. Social anxiety is tough. Blogging both helps mine and causes mine. Lol – the events are soooo tricky for me. But it’s practice. I’m glad blogging has been positive for you in that way. Thank you for sharing.

  • Razena Schroeder

    A few years ago I attended an international travel forum and met a lady who said something to me that has stayed with me ever since. She asked why I had become a blogger, which requires so much public interaction when I’m a shy person at heart. It had never occurred to me until that moment that she was right… but I also realised that my activities as a blogger had allowed me to overcome my shyness and anxiety in public. I wish you all of the best with your anxiety and hope that it will one day be a distant memory for you.

  • Linda Ton

    Great read Jessica. I’m no where near my goal in the blogging career but this helps remind me of my goal as why I started. I’m happy you were able to improve your anxiety and not let negative people bring you down. As a psych major I have learned alot about mental health and it’s great you’re talking about one of the issues you face. You go girl! xo.

    Linda
    http://www.beautielle.com

  • April Kitchens

    I like blogging because it allows me to be creative. Loved this post.

  • This is beautifully written and you look beautiful too Jessica! I laugh when people categorize bloggers as automatically being extroverts. We are all so different which in the end makes blogging so powerful. Love this post!

    Laurel
    http://www.laurelmusical.com

  • Twin Pickle

    Blogging is such a boost to self-confidence for sure!!

  • Lauren

    Thanks for sharing Jessica! Blogging has also helped me with some social anxiety that I’ve had. The community is great and it’s really help me grow as a person too!

    Lauren
    http://www.basicbabelauren.com

  • That is so awesome you can be so transparent with your struggles. It is also really encouraging to see how you’ve overcome something so draining through an outlet you love! Keep on doing you!

    Much love,
    Ashley | dearash.com

  • It’s so amazing that you are able to share this with us. It takes a lot of courage to do that and the fact that you can see the positive in all of this and the amazing way in which you have grown is amazing!

    I also have anxiety and I find that blogging has really helped me become stronger and more confident in myself!

    x
    Shloka
    http://thesilksneaker.com

  • Megan Anne ❄️

    Recently I wrote a blog post about why I blog, and I said a lot of it had to do with the fact that it helps my anxiety. A lot of people did not understand how that could be but I totally get what you are saying! I feel the exact same way!

  • Amanda Jonsson

    I’m so glad that you found an outlet for yourself. It’s so important for everyone to find an arena that they can thrive in, and it sounds like blogging is that for you. It is for me too : )

  • I agree with so many of these points. Blogging has helped me in the same ways. I am able to get out what I am thinking even if I don’t say everything that is on my mind.

  • So amazing that blogging has had such a positive impact on your life. Keep it up, babe! You’re doing great things and your positivity definitely radiates through your posts!

    Enclothed Cognition

  • Aw, thanks for sharing this, Jessica! Anxiety is something that needs to be talked about more, so it’s great you can use your blog as a platform to spread awareness 🙂

    http://www.insearchofsheila.com

  • That’s so great blogging has helped with your anxiety! I’ve suffered from anxiety for several years and it’s really helpful to me as well. I’ve never felt more comfortable around a group of people as I do with the blogging community 🙂

    • The awesome thing about the blogging community is that we all have similar interests, so it’s much easier to connect! It’s definitely a lot harder for me to make conversation with non-bloggers haha.

  • Melissa Rose

    As a fellow anxiety sufferer (GAD, Agoraphobia) I completely agree with . I have especially found that, I too, have become much more confident and take things less personally.

    – Melissa | http://theanxiouscanadian.com/

  • I completely agree with you! Blogging has really helped me too 🙂 Great post!

    xo, Liz
    http://lipstickandconfetti.com

  • thesofieyahdiaries

    Good tips, and very true things that I have learned as well!!! I appreciate you sharing, and never knew you to be anxious, but I always forget that who we present ourselves to be on the internet does not define us… stay true to yourself <3

    • Haha thanks so much Sophia! I do try to portray myself differently online, but I feel like writing these types of posts can be helpful to others 🙂

  • Ilka Bermann

    Love such personal posts. I used to be pretty anxious as well.. blogging helps me so much. I always loved to connect, and blogging is such a fantastic way xx

  • Christina Schwartz

    Thanks for sharing your personal experiences. What I love most about this post is that it has the potential to help and influence others! Great job!

  • I LOVE this post! I have started realizing that I probably have social anxiety. I have always been introverted and as I got older I started realizing that I would hide away from events with too many people. I was always the person sitting in a corner not talking to anyone because I am afraid others will think I am so weird. I also feel as though I am not good at holding a normal conversation and people will judge me on that. I have started blogging and enjoy it for the same reasons. I still haven’t attended a bloggers event but I’m proud that you were able to attend one despite your anxiety. I know how big of a step that must have been for you! Thanks so much for sharing this! I really did enjoy reading it! 🙂

    • Thanks so much Stevie! I’m exactly the same way haha – I find that it helps to have multiple people there so you’re included in the conversation, but not pressured to speak! Hopefully when you start attending blogger events you’re able to break out of your comfort zone!

  • Kimberly Hsieh

    Blogging definitely helps with self-growth as well! I feel the same way about how blogging helping me become more extroverted 🙂

  • dee

    I absolutely loved reading this post, Jess! I can totally relate to so much of what you said, especially about your first media event! My first I was so awkward (to me) because I just didn’t know how to put myself out there and interact…I still don’t really LOL. I definitely find blogging helps me with my anxiety, and it’s helping me come out of my shell more. I love reading your posts girl, keep the awesomeness coming! Xo Dee

    • Aw thanks so much Dee! Hopefully we both get out of our shells more hehe!