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I Don’t Want to Be Beautiful and Neither Should You

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I Don’t Want to Be Beautiful and Neither Should You

I don’t want to be beautiful, and neither should you.

I wasn’t pretty growing up.

In elementary school, I remember when boys would tell me I was fat and ugly and had big ears.

I remember going to a wedding in grade 5 and watching as a relative I didn’t know gushed over how adorable my younger brother and sister were.

She didn’t even look in my direction.

I remember during Christmas some many years ago, when one of my relatives said to me in a condescending tone, “You know why your cousin works at Hollister? Because she’s pretty.”


I don’t want to be beautiful and neither should you


Covering up with makeup

I started wearing makeup in grade 6 because I didn’t want to feel ugly anymore.

People at school made fun of my badly-done, smudged eyeliner – it’s funny now, but it was hurtful back then.

In high school I started wearing even more makeup, and people called me “cake face” and other cruel names.

I think I just pretended it didn’t hurt and laughed it off.

Even if it was with a face full of makeup, I wanted to be pretty.

Art Gallery of Ontario in Toronto, Canada

I don’t want to be beautiful

I’m 20 and a half years old now (today, actually – October 1st is my half birthday) and I couldn’t care less about what people think of how I look.

I don’t want to be beautiful, and I don’t care if people don’t think I’m beautiful.

There are more important things in life, and I’d rather be known for something less superficial.

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My ultimate goal in life is to be good at as many things as possible, and that’s what I’m currently working on.

I want to be intelligent and passionate and that’s what I want people to see.

I want to have so much drive and self-confidence that I inspire people to feel the same way about themselves.

"I remember when I was younger and I wanted to be beautiful; now I’m older and I want to be intelligent. I want to burn hearts with brilliance and engulf souls with compassion. I want to be loved for my thoughts and nothing else." -Anonymous

Here is one of my favourite quotes:

“I remember when I was younger and I wanted to be beautiful; now I’m older and I want to be intelligent. I want to burn hearts with brilliance and engulf souls with compassion. I want to be loved for my thoughts and nothing else.” -Anonymous

This is why I love to write.

I’ve gotten dozens of messages from people telling me how I’ve inspired them through my writing and it always astounds me.

Nothing beats that feeling of putting something good out into the world and making people feel happy about themselves.

Except the moment you take the first bite out of a pizza ;). But yeah.

You can’t do much with beauty, but you can do a lot with intelligence.

We should all try to achieve something more than just being beautiful (sentence credits to my good friend Shay).


What are your thoughts on this pressure to be beautiful? Let me know on Twitter or Instagram!

P.S. if you liked this post, you might like this post on goals to have as a 21 year old, or any of my other posts on wellness.

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Jessica Lam | Toronto lifestyle, fashion, beauty, and travel blogger | Diary of a Toronto Girl, a Canadian lifestyle blog

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